(Closed) bridal party asked to pay for midnight buffet??

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

A midnight buffet? I’m not even sure when that became the norm, let alone making someone else throw a party!

You should politely decline… to be in the bridal party.

Post # 33
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11528 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

As prior posters all noted, it is neither normal nor proper for the couple to ask the bridal party to provide this additional food for their reception.

Post # 34
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171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Seriously?!?

 

Well you can always say “I unfortunately will not be able to get you a present AND donate towards the midnight buffet…which one would you rather I do?”

Post # 35
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2701 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Dude, that’s not cool at all.  It is not your job to pay for their wedding.  I would tell the bride that you do not have money to pay for the midnight buffet.

This isn’t normal.

Post # 36
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945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Umm I have never heard of that before haha..so weird

Post # 37
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1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Very strange.  If that is truly what they want I guess you could offer to order some deli trays from Costco as their wedding gift, but it is still not cool that they asked/expected the bridal party to feed their guests – regardless of whether it is in lieu of a wedding gift or in addition to a wedding gift…

Post # 38
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3695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What?  No.

We did have late-night snacks, but not a whole ‘nother buffet.  It cost us about $150 for our 40 guests – it was basically another round of apps.  Most of it went uneaten since everyone just had dinner!  We just wanted to make sure there was some food for those that, um, indulged in the open bar.  And by we I mean I paid for it and didn’t even consider asking anyone else to.

Post # 39
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811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

What was yours and the other bridal party member’s responses to her?

I can’t believe someone would actually have the nerve to even bring it up.

Post # 40
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3682 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Where the HELL did they get the idea that asking that was remotely ok?

Post # 41
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We had a late night french fry truck, but never in a million years would I have asked my Bridal Party to pay for it!

Post # 42
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1226 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Um a midnight buffet is fine, but they should not ask yuo guys to pay for it. NOT ok… How thoughtful of them to put you in that awquard situation……….. Especially f you’ve spent money on the dress, accesories and all… They could’ve HELPED YOU pay for all of that… At least part of it… Hopefully they dont have expensive taste…. But yeah I would asay that if you have to pay for that you wont be able to afford to get them a wedding gift…..

Post # 44
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9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Just say no.  That’s not appropriate at all.

Post # 45
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9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

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@queenie17:  Definitely bring it up as a group and let the more powerful people take over telling the bride and groom.  This is not right and they are definitely taking advantage of you all.  How could you stay friends with people like that?

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