(Closed) Bridal party attire

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What do you think I should do?
    Pay for the bridesmaids' dresses : (4 votes)
    17 %
    Leave the cost of the dresses up to them, but pay for hair, makeup, accessories, etc. : (15 votes)
    63 %
    Stick to my original plan and provide a gift and cover accessories that I would like them to have. : (5 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    You need to agonize over it. If you have the money, it is nice to pay for the accessories and things, but bridesmaids paying for their dress is par for the course. I have two bridesmaids and I purchased their outfits, but they are traveling from very far away to be there. I think your friends won’t know how the groomsmen are getting their outfits and likely won’t care if they do find out.  

    Post # 3
    Member
    7501 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If you are requiring them to get their hair and makeup done then you should pay for it (I couldn’t tell from your post if you’re requiring it). Otherwise, I think it’s fine to buy them the gifts you had planned and then cover the accessories you want them to wear.

    They likely shouldn’t find out that the GM’s attire costs are covered and even if they do, I would hope they would be understanding about it. Travel is usually half the cost of being in a wedding for me.

    Post # 4
    Member
    309 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I would only pay for hair and makeup if you are requiring it to be done. If it is optional, they can cover the cost. I think it is fine to go with your original plan.

    Post # 5
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    1936 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Any demands you make you are responsbile for paying for. (I THINK that’s what you said you’re doing from your post, but it was a little unclear.) Basically, if you want them to have their hair and makeup done, you pay for it. However, I don’t think you’re obligated to pay for both the costs of getting ready and what they wear. It’s acceptable to let them pay for their dresses on the premise you don’t make TOO many demands concerning cost and style. They get some wiggle room when it comes to something they’re paying for.

    As a female, I’m completely aware of how different the costs are for men’s attire versus women’s. A man can rent a nice tux WITH shoes in Ontario for $79, lol. I’m not saying your FI’s gift isn’t gracious, it is! But for you to do the same with getting ready and outfits would be 3x the cost.

    Any decent female will respect the cost difference and not feel miffed if the groomsmen are completely covered and they’re not, IMO.

    Have you ASKED them what they’d like? Personally, the accessories you lsited are legit the last thing I’d want covered as a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I’d rather have my dress or hair/makeup!

    Post # 7
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    157 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I’m in literally the same spot- Fiance is paying for his Groomsmen suits. For the girls they could pick from a couple at David’s, and I told them to just wear a pair of heels in a set color. I am paying for their hair, makeup, and nails to be done for the wedding, as well as buying the necklaces, earrings, robes for getting ready, a pre-prepared bag that has like 21 things a bridesmaid may need (band-aids, sewing kit, advil, mints, ect- I found the bags at a store but they’re pretty common), as well as personal gifts for each.

    I think that even if the girls know that the guys suits are paid for, the amount of getting ready and gifts even it out.

    Post # 8
    Member
    332 posts
    Helper bee

    It depends on the costs you can afford. I really wanted to buy my bridesmaids outfits, but in the end I was already paying more than enough for the wedding, and I couldn’t afford dresses (expecting them to cost over $300+).
    Anyway, my bridesmaids are just wearing plain black cocktail dresses, which they got for $50 on sale, which is fantastic! Because not only did they buy their dresses and it was at a reasonable cost, I felt ok with the fact they only had to spend $50 each on a dress, and it made me feel less of a “cheapskate” lol 

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