Post # 1
My MoH planned a holiday from Nov-mid Dec a long time ago, so I knew to take that into account when thinking about dates for bridal shower and hens night, but recently my BMs have told me that they are going away from early Dec-early Jan and mid Dec-mid Jan (my wedding is on Jan 24).
This means that for both the bridal shower and the hens night, they won’t all be there.
I understand that people can’t be expected to put their life on hold for your wedding, but I gave them almost 2 years notice of the wedding, and I feel disappointed that they are not making an effort to be there for those events.
If I do bridal shower in mid Dec, 2 of them can make it (but not my sister). If I do the hens a couple of weekends before the wedding, my MoH and sister (BM) can make it, but not the other Bridesmaid or Best Man.
If I do both events on the one day, in mid Jan, then again, one Bridesmaid or Best Man will miss both.
They have offered to help out with planning etc, but I just wish the BMs hadn’t just now decided to be away for almost all of those 2 months!
Am I being unreasonable? I just want them to be there 🙁
Post # 3
What about mid november for both?
I know it’s frustrating but it’s a very common vacation time and it’s not like you told them about these events two years ago.
Post # 4
@Bubbles42: Unfortunately my MoH is away for pretty much all of November, and I have my final exams until Nov 18 🙁
Post # 5
@vish: What country are you in? If your final exams are in November, I’m guessing southern hemisphere. And at least here in Australia, December/January is a very popular vacation time. Can you have the hens’ night after the girls get back from vacation in mid January? I had mine the week of my wedding (Monday I think).
Post # 6
@paula1248: Hello again! Yup I’m in Australia 🙂 I think my Bridesmaid or Best Man who is away for most of Jan is planning to get back about a week before the wedding…I guess if we did hens then, they’d all be there. My biggest issue is that my sister (who is underage and wouldn’t be able to participate in most of the hens night) is away for most of the period that I was hoping to have the bridal shower in – she’s away from the first week of December till the first week of Jan. Because she will miss out on a lot of the hens, I really wanted her there for the bridal shower. Is is weird to have the bridal shower a 2-3 weeks before the wedding? I guess they could organise the shower for 1st/2nd week of Jan, when the MoH and my sister are there, and the hens for a week before the wedding, when all of them are there?