(Closed) Bridal party choice

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
46647 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Collegelove:  I suggest you wait about  a year, then think about it. There have been many posts from Bees who asked their attendants way too early and frienships and relationships changed.

Most likely you are going to have to narrow down your numbers. 11 or 12 attendants is for cathedral weddings.

Post # 3
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Collegelove:  I think asking no one in the sorority is safer. When it comes to bridal parties, I’m a big believer in “smaller is better”. You want your absolute best friends who you can’t imagine not being there – not everyone who is your friend. I only had 2 (bff and sister). You can still involve a wider circle in other things like the bachelorette party, attending the wedding, and even some special photos with them.

Also 4 nieces is a lot, and with young girls I think it really needs to be “all or none”, so I would suggest no junior bridesmaids.

Post # 5
1772 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Wait 8 months or so to figure it out. I had 7 bridesmaids for a 100-guest wedding and it worked perfectly. I suggest waiting and then including everybody who you want in your bridal party.  

Post # 6
10 posts

Waiting is the BEST idea ever.  Don’t ask anyone, don’t feel obligated to hint that someone will be asked when the time comes.  Your Sorors will totally be excited with and for you the entire time, but picking out ONE from the whole group is super hard and might hurt a lot of feelings. 

Also, as for your Big and Little, unless you are SUPER VERY CLOSE to either of them (I was close with one of my littles for years, and never very close with my big), I would just consider them as honored guests.



Post # 7
4892 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Agree with PP’s – wait until you’re ready to start planning more. Friendships can definitely change, so you want to ensure that you ask those that you KNOW you want in your wedding at that time, and not now.

We are having a small wedding with about 40 people, and we opted to only have 2 people on each side in our wedding parties. Small and simple.

Post # 8
2698 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Collegelove:  Agree with PP, I would wait until clsoer to ask friends. That’s what I did. I was worried about relationships changing. Weddings do bring out the worst in people sometimes. Good luck and Congrats!

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