- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I have only been in 2 weddings in my life – and one was when I was a flower girl at age 7.
BUT I KNOW (and I thought it was common knowledge), that the day before the wedding (which is typically a Friday) is a huge preparation day, and the bridal party usually takes off work to help with errands, decorations, etc, in addition to attending the rehearsal of the ceremony and the rehearsal dinner.
But apparently I’m totally wrong.
We have 4 BMs and 4 GMs. 3 of the 4 GMs have never been in a wedding before and didn’t even know a rehearsal was done.
And even though all 4 of my BMs have been in other weddings before, it seems like none of them were aware that we would really need their help on the Friday before our wedding.
Bridesmaid or Best Man L texted me asking what time the rehearsal was so she could take a 1/2 day off work. I replied that the rehearsal started at 4:30 but we were decorating the hall and doing other preparations from 12-4. She seemed stunned by the fact that it was going to be an all day event, even though just a few years ago, I took TWO DAYS off work for her wedding.
Bridesmaid or Best Man K & Bridesmaid or Best Man C Also asked what was going on between 12-4 that day and wanted to know why we were “getting together” so early.
Groomsmen C had the NERVE to say that he didn’t know that “decorating” was his responsibility.
And the other 3 GMs haven’t even responded to our notice that we need help that Friday.
I am really hurt and worried. My family is all out of town so it’s just me, my sister, and dad. My mom is a dialysis patient and won’t be able to help Friday because she’ll be getting her treatment.
My fiance’s family consists of only his mom, and she is having major foot surgery in a few days and will barely be able to walk when the wedding/rehearsal rolls around, so she won’t be much help either.
I’m just ….. at a loss.
I never sent a formal invitation for the day before, because I’ve never, ever, EVER heard of ANYONE doing this!!! I’ve just been passing along info, timelines, etc, via word of mouth, text, Facebook, phone calls.
It’s just implied/known.
I understand that people have to take off work, and if they really, truly can’t get off, I understand, but ….. geez!
Most of them just seem interested in the free dinner that night!!!