Post # 1
I know that brides get really stressed out when their wedding is getting closer, but if a bride is going to do something that would really upset her bridal party (and would make them very resentful towards her in the long run for it), should the bridal party tell her or just suck it up for her since they know how stressed out she probably is?
Post # 3
I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my best college friend. She treated me like a slave in the run up to her wedding. I called home to my mom crying and hoping I could not hate her by the wedding day.
I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my little sister. She was a major b*tch before her wedding. Even the night before she was nasty and spiteful. I didn’t know how I was going to give a toast the next day! (I was thinking of saying "BIL, I hope she’s less of a b*tch to you that she was to us! Good luck, because you’re going to need it!")
In both cases I was able to put it aside and enjoy the weddings and the brides. In both cases I’ve gotten over it and we have good relationships.
Unless the bride is asking her maids to do something morally reprehensible, dangerous, illegal, or cruel- I would say just go with it.