(Closed) Bridal Party Dillema.. Help me find the right option :(

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would say just have the first groomsman walk in with 2 BMs. I was recently in a wedding where there were 5 BMs and 3 GMs, and the last Groomsmen just walked with 2 ladies on his arm. It didn’t look strange at all.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Have two BMs walk with a Groomsmen

Look how happy that boy is

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Don’t replace him.  Have one Groomsmen with two BMs

This happened at a wedding Fiance stood up in – of course he got the extra girl.  LOL

the crowd loved it.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

In this case, I would just leave the groomsman in and hope for the best. If it does happen that he has to leave, it sounds like his wife will be fine walking alone, and that sounds like the easiest solution. Maybe you could just include a note in the program about him being a groomsman in absentia, or have a little announcement, prayer for him, etc., during the ceremony.

And who knows? Maybe they’ll hire another crew member this summer and he would still be able to take the time off?

Since so much of this is out of your control, try to let it go. I know it’s hard, but there’s really nothing you can do. FWIW I have something not all that different with a couple of the musicians for our wedding – and the music is by far the part I care about the most! One of them unexpectedly got a new job and will be moving away; another person had agreed to sing for ours, then found out after-the-fact that his cousin’s wedding was the same day, and family trumps so he had to bow out of ours to attend theirs … so it goes. Weddings happen in the midst of life, you just have to roll with it and know that whatever happens, it will be beautiful and you will get through it so you can get to the marriage!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Agreed, just pair up last two bridesmaids with the last groomsman.  That’s what we did.

We were each escorted down the aisle by our parents and they stood under the chuppah with us.  Then, they followed us out during the recessional.  However, my Mother-In-Law is a widow and I didn’t know if she’d want to recess by herself.  So, one of the groomsmen escorted her during the recessional which left us with 3 remaining bridesmaids and 2 remaining groomsmen.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Aw sorry to hear that – stay positive and hopefully he will still be able to make it!  I agree with PP, just have a Groomsmen walk with 2 BMs – it will look just fine! 🙂  Also, THANK YOU for being a calm bride and NOT flipping out saying how selfish the Groomsmen is for potentially not being able to come to your wedding! THat was a breath of fresh air!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MAURINA:  Agreed, that would be odd.  I think usually the first ones in the processional are the ones who stand furthest from the bride/groom during the ceremony, right?  In my case I paired the extra bridesmaid with the furthest groomsman.  He was the first groomsman in and the last one out.  (The best man and matron of honor were the last wedding party members on the way in, and the first ones on the way out.)  We didn’t have any junior bridesmaids or groomsmen to consider, though.

Our processional (in order of entry):

Bridesmaid or Best Man3 – Groomsmen3
Bridesmaid or Best Man2 – Groomsmen2
Bridesmaid or Best Man1 – Groomsmen1
Maid/Matron of Honor – Best Man
MOG – Groom
MOB – Bride – FOB

Our recessional (in order of exit):

Bride – Groom
MOB – FOB
MOG – Groomsmen3
Maid/Matron of Honor – Best Man
Bridesmaid or Best Man1 – Groomsmen1
Bridesmaid or Best Man2 – Groomsmen2 – Bridesmaid or Best Man3

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