(Closed) Bridal Party Drama… I must vent to other brides now!!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1527 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry you have to go through that ๐Ÿ™ It’s realy not fair to anyone that there hasn’t been communication from the Maid/Matron of Honor. If she said she could do that job, she should do it. If something comes up and she can’t, then she should have let people know in advance (besides emergencies). I would just remind them that all of the fighting is hurting you, and it’s your day and you want everyone to be happy and get along. It’s not really fair to ask the girls for more money after the fact, so I’m not sure how to deal with that. Especially if they didn’t know anything about it. It sounds a little sketch. I’m also sorry that her husband is so unsupportive. That’s really sad. 

I hope they can all pull it together for the day and get everything settled. ๐Ÿ™ And I hope your wedding is everything you want it to be!!! Try to focus on your fiancé and the fun parts of the wedding ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Aww! I am sorry! I wish I could help. Having been in an abusive relationship I wonder if that is your MOH’s problem? If so I can totally feel for her about being flaky. I wasn’t the greatest friend til I left my ex. It is hard to handle the constant belittling and demands. Her husband is her number one relationship and he is probably raising a stink about the money she spent. She proably is fighting a losing battle between what he demands and what she knows is right. She probably shouldn’t have agreed to play this role but she probably also wanted to do this one thing for HERSELF and for you. It is hard to miss out on everything you want to do just to please your mate. She probably wanted this to be a bit of “normalcy” in a turbulent sea.

 I also can see your side and feel your pain too. After all you never told her to marry this guy and now he is probably the one ruining this once in a lifetime experince for you. This is a pickle! I realize I am making some wild suppositions here and don’t mean to offend, just want to help Innocent I think that the girls don’t need to involve you in the drama with Maid/Matron of Honor. She may not even be expecting them to pay this $ but may be emailing them so she has proof to show her husband to get him off her back. Is it wrong? Maybe but I feel like she may be desperate. I have sadly been there. I don’t know your friend so I can’t say how she would feel about sharing her circumstances with the other girls. It might make them deal more kindly with her but it may make her feel betrayed. I would hate to see her lose your friendship because it sounds like she really needs it. Someday she may leave him and it will be because she knows she has good friends to turn to. I wish I lived closer then I would totally come and fill in for her where I could. Hugs This bites sorry!

Post # 5
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131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

That’s really frustrating… while it sounds like your Maid/Matron of Honor is definitely acting badly, it’s kind of unfortunate that your bridesmaids are using you to run interference with her. 

I would tell the maids that since the financial arrangements were between themselves and the Maid/Matron of Honor that you don’t feel comfortable involving yourself, but that they should feel free to voice their concerns to the Maid/Matron of Honor directly.  Then if Maid/Matron of Honor complains to you, reiterate that you don’t feel comfortable intervening in this since you weren’t involved in the planning and don’t know what their deal was.  

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