(Closed) Bridal Party Dresses- let them pick?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it’s awesome.  In fact, I just told my girls to wear whatever they wanted – I think the matchy matchy stuff looks stupid.  They’re not decorations, they’re people.

Post # 4
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I told my BMs that I don’t care whether or not their dresses matched or even if they were the same material. The only thing I asked is that they pick the same shade of blue. I didn’t even care what kind of blue. I figure it would be easier to match the GMs tuxes to their color than the other way around. I’ve found that as long as they are in the same color shade, the pictures still come out looking wonderful. 

Post # 5
4442 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@HaumeasHeart:  I would give them a length, color and fabric and tell them to go nuts!

Post # 7
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@HaumeasHeart:  I had them choose, I gave them color and lenght guidelines, but told them it was up to them… My bridesmaids have different body types and different budgets so i i didn’t want them to feel obligated to purchase a dress they didn’t feel comfortable in/couldn’t afford. I think that as long as you don’t mind them looking different it should be okay… Personally i wanted mismatched dresses because i never understood why bridesmaids had to look the same, i mean who wants to be at an event dressed the same as somebody else?

Post # 8
1448 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think it’s very fair of you to do this.

I have a similar situation where every bridesmaid is a different shape and let each bridesmaid pick the dress she wanted (given length, color, fabric, and designer line requirements).  They did a great job and I think the bridal party is going to look really lovely.

Post # 9
30 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

I did this with my BMs… it’s been almost 11 months since I started wedding planning and they still keep telling me how thankful they are that they got to choose what they wore.  It’s alot easier for you too.  A few suggestions.. (1) give them a length, especially if you don’t want the dresses to be too short.  That happened to my friend, one of her BMs chose a suuuper short dress.  So awkward.  (2) give them a deadline to have their dresses by… since they get to pick their own they might be more apt to putting it off (3) go to a craft store and get 1/4 yard of a fabric that is the color you want (or get swatches in the lightest hue and darkest hue on the spectrum of what you want) so that your BMs can take them with them when shopping, that will help them all match each other better!  Have fun! 🙂  

Post # 10
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Like everyone else, my BMs are totally different body types and sizes.. I just told them what color I wanted, and as long as the dress they wanted was available in that color, I didn’t care what it looked like.  Amazingly enough, they all fell in love with the same dress! 

Post # 11
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It depends on how much you trust your bridesmaids’ sense of color and style. You could say sage green, and each one may show up in a different shade. Or one may go ultra formal and another go the sun dress route…

Post # 12
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I told my bridesmaids to choose, as long as the dresses are long and black.

Post # 13
11336 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@HaumeasHeart: Think they’ll love it, they’ll be more likely to wear the dress again too

Post # 14
927 posts
Busy bee

Mine aren’t matching either 🙂

I just googled pictures in the color scheme we’re using and sent a group email with examples of what I liked and another with the length I’d like them to be close to.  Our bridal party has very different body shapes too.  Now they can pick something they actually love and pay what they are comfortable with.

Post # 15
905 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I have three girls – one is about 5’6″ and weighs maybe 110 dripping wet, another is 5’9″ and stacked, and the third is 5’3″ and chunky (I hate to say that, but I don’t know how else to describe her Embarassed).  I barely know what looks good on my own body, let alone what would work for all three of them!  So I’m going to find a designer with a lot of options, pick a color, and let them go hog wild.  They know what they’ll feel comfortable and look good in.

Post # 16
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I found a pretty dress pattern that can be customized for heighth and found fabric I liked and had a seamstress make the dresses for the bm’s to their measurements. It was a very cheap option.

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