Post # 1
I’m not very good at all with fashion, and my bridal party is made up of girls with seriously different body types. Is it ok to just tell them I don’t feel comfortable dressing them, and just let them pick a dress in my wedding colors? Do you think that would come off as weird? I just honestly don’t want to pick something aweful that they hate.
Post # 3
I think it’s awesome. In fact, I just told my girls to wear whatever they wanted – I think the matchy matchy stuff looks stupid. They’re not decorations, they’re people.
Post # 4
I told my BMs that I don’t care whether or not their dresses matched or even if they were the same material. The only thing I asked is that they pick the same shade of blue. I didn’t even care what kind of blue. I figure it would be easier to match the GMs tuxes to their color than the other way around. I’ve found that as long as they are in the same color shade, the pictures still come out looking wonderful.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@HaumeasHeart: I would give them a length, color and fabric and tell them to go nuts!
Post # 6
Thanks! That’s awesome to hear!! I didn’t want to come off as if I don’t care, but I really don’t want to be responsible for finding a dress for a 6 foot bombshell, a gorgeous petite siste, and a beautiful mid height friend. Phew!!!
Post # 7
@HaumeasHeart: I had them choose, I gave them color and lenght guidelines, but told them it was up to them… My bridesmaids have different body types and different budgets so i i didn’t want them to feel obligated to purchase a dress they didn’t feel comfortable in/couldn’t afford. I think that as long as you don’t mind them looking different it should be okay… Personally i wanted mismatched dresses because i never understood why bridesmaids had to look the same, i mean who wants to be at an event dressed the same as somebody else?
Post # 8
I think it’s very fair of you to do this.
I have a similar situation where every bridesmaid is a different shape and let each bridesmaid pick the dress she wanted (given length, color, fabric, and designer line requirements). They did a great job and I think the bridal party is going to look really lovely.
Post # 9
I did this with my BMs… it’s been almost 11 months since I started wedding planning and they still keep telling me how thankful they are that they got to choose what they wore. It’s alot easier for you too. A few suggestions.. (1) give them a length, especially if you don’t want the dresses to be too short. That happened to my friend, one of her BMs chose a suuuper short dress. So awkward. (2) give them a deadline to have their dresses by… since they get to pick their own they might be more apt to putting it off (3) go to a craft store and get 1/4 yard of a fabric that is the color you want (or get swatches in the lightest hue and darkest hue on the spectrum of what you want) so that your BMs can take them with them when shopping, that will help them all match each other better! Have fun! 🙂
Post # 10
Like everyone else, my BMs are totally different body types and sizes.. I just told them what color I wanted, and as long as the dress they wanted was available in that color, I didn’t care what it looked like. Amazingly enough, they all fell in love with the same dress!
Post # 11
It depends on how much you trust your bridesmaids’ sense of color and style. You could say sage green, and each one may show up in a different shade. Or one may go ultra formal and another go the sun dress route…
Post # 12
I told my bridesmaids to choose, as long as the dresses are long and black.
Post # 13
@HaumeasHeart: Think they’ll love it, they’ll be more likely to wear the dress again too
Post # 14
Mine aren’t matching either 🙂
I just googled pictures in the color scheme we’re using and sent a group email with examples of what I liked and another with the length I’d like them to be close to. Our bridal party has very different body shapes too. Now they can pick something they actually love and pay what they are comfortable with.
Post # 15
I have three girls – one is about 5’6″ and weighs maybe 110 dripping wet, another is 5’9″ and stacked, and the third is 5’3″ and chunky (I hate to say that, but I don’t know how else to describe her ). I barely know what looks good on my own body, let alone what would work for all three of them! So I’m going to find a designer with a lot of options, pick a color, and let them go hog wild. They know what they’ll feel comfortable and look good in.
Post # 16
I found a pretty dress pattern that can be customized for heighth and found fabric I liked and had a seamstress make the dresses for the bm’s to their measurements. It was a very cheap option.