(Closed) Bridal Party, Help!!!

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
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  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee

    I’m not sure if I would include your sisters 17 year old friends unless you are REALLY close to them. Besides the fact that friendships change as people grow up, it’s also normally quite an expense to be in a wedding. Between the dresses, shoes, parties, etc. it all adds up. And it might not be something young people can afford.

    With that said, it is your wedding so you can choose whoever you want. Your guests wont notice or care so do whatever you think is best.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Maybe give your sisters friends or your mi,itary friends another role, like a reading.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    What is your wedding budget? Can you afford 9 bridesmaids? I agree with what is said above. If you are legit like sisters, then have your sister’s 17 year old friends. But I think I would cut them and give them another important job, maybe a reading or have them help out with the planning. Or offer for them to get their hair and nails done with the BM the day of/before the wedding?

    Post # 6
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    the miliarty friends and your sisters friends seem like ones you can live without.  why don’t you honor them another way.  a reading, handing out programs, etc.

    the more BM’s you have, the more drama there is.  especially when it comes to planning things.

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @SlovenePrincess:  Can you afford 9 bridesmaid gifts?!?! Thats a lot!  If you want to cut back I say cut  your sisters friends.  They are her friends.  If you want to still include them then can pass out programs, lead guests out/in.  Let them know they will be your sisters BMs but you already have your own friends and you feel 9 is too many.  As for the MOH thing, do what you want, but be careful to not make 1 girl feel bad.  It is just a title but some people are sensitive to that. 

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would just stick with your sister and your own friends.  I don’t see why you need your sister’s friends or the ones you aren’t as close to.  Maybe you can have them do a reading, pass out programs, or something else.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    So by adding the 2 17 year olds, it’s making the wedding more about your sister. I think you should just tell tell them your sister had it wrong, and you were going to ask them to be readers not bridesmaids. At their age, they won’t be able to attend your bachelorette nor (most likely) contribute financially to a shower or buy their own dresses and accessories. 

    Take back YOUR day…and have your best friends and sister standing beside you when you get married.

    Your sister and her friends will have their time to be each other’s bridesmaids when their weddings come along. 

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @SlovenePrincess:  I am lucky to have a sister too, half sister but a sister none the less and I love her to death.  I am so glad I get to give her that title cause I am dont want to single out any of my girlfriends around here thinking that I like one more than the others.  That is also why I am lining them up by height so they dont think I am lining them up by importance.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @SlovenePrincess Why is your mom going along with making your wedding all about your little sister?!? I’d be so mad! Cheers to you for going with the flow, girl!  

     

    Anyway, I had 9 bridesmaids and everything went very smoothly, so, to answer your original question—I don’t think 9 is too many (I also had 3 flowergirls 🙂 And I don’t think it was too much in person or in pictures. I had them wear short, champagne dresses in 1 of 5 styles so it wasn’t soooooo matchy-matchy and I think the short dresses broke up the color-monotony that sometimes happens with large bridal parties in long dresses. 

     

    Good luck! 

     

     

     

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @SlovenePrincess:  Of course you aren’t breaking any “bridal laws” but I also think you’re going a little too bridesmaid happy.

     

     

     

    Trust me, the bigger is not the better. More bouquets you have to purchase, more gifts you need to give, more opinions you need to listen to, more schedules you need to coordinate. Not every female in your life should be in your wedding. Plenty other ways to include them. 

     

     

     

    Just some things to consider…

     

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley

    SlovenePrincess:  I attended a wedding last weekend that had 11 bridesmaids & 11 groomsmen.  Yes it was a huge wedding party and while not necessarily a hassle or expense I would personally want, it worked for them and the wedding was absolutely beautiful. 

    I was also in a wedding earlier in the month where there were 8 bridesmaid & 8 groomsmen.  Perhaps not a huge number, but it was a small beach destination wedding with 35 guest’s total (that’s including the wedding party).  Since the bridal party was over 50% of the guest total the bride chose to have us walk and then be seated after a brief opening by the officiant.  It also turned out beautiful.

    Point being, if it’s important to you, no number is too big or small.  I would just try to find a balance between what is important to you and what is important to everyone else.  And if pleasing your mom/sis is high on the list of what’s important to you that is fine too.

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