Post # 1
If I don’t get my crap together I’m going to end up with a HUGE bridal party.
I have one sister, three fantastic best friends I’ve had for almost 10 years (hey that’s an eternity for a military brat!) and my FH has 3 amazing sisters who I adore. I couldn’t imagine any of them not being next to me on our big day. Nor could they.
And so there were 7.
My FH also wants his brother, Brother-In-Law, my brother and Brother-In-Law on his side, plus his closest friends. So then out of both sides of the family, that leaves two SIL’s and one Brother-In-Law not included.
It’s obviously a family affair at this point!
Do you add the two extra girls and one guy? Bringing your total to NINE BM’s and 7 GM’s! Or risk hurting their feelings because they weren’t included? I know for a fact one of the girls already had her feelings really hurt in a similar family situation.
So bees, what would you do?
It’s so hard to keep everyone happy, while keeping everything realistic. *Le Sigh*
Post # 3
How big is your wedding? If you are having a large wedding you can have a large bridal party but at the same time what do you want to do?
If you want them – go for it if you are only doing it to stop people’s feelings from getting hurt I would think twice for two reasons:
<span style=”white-space: pre;”> – the bigger the bridal party the more potential for drama
<span style=”white-space: pre;”> – you are still likely to hurt someones feelings and if they see that you already have 7 they might understand!
Post # 4
It will be a smaller wedding probably 75 – 100. I feel like everyone will be up front! 😉 Thanks for your advice! Much appreciated.
Post # 5
woah. hopefully these ‘extras’ (and your already included maids and men) are all rational adults and will recognize that you’re full up to the gills.
as for ushers/readers/etc., I’d say don’t find something just because you don’t want to hurt their feelings – that’s kind of insulting in and of itself, like a consolation (or pity) prize.
J is deadset against having ushers, because he says every time he’s been asked to be an usher, it’s felt like a slap in the face “Oh you’re a second string friend, but I don’t want to tell you that.” *boys*
Post # 6
My wedding party got way huge we went from four to eight but its becasue I wanted to add his cousins that he wa close to but if you already have seven things are going to just get even more exspensive from there.
Post # 7
By SIL’s and BIL’s, are you talking about the sibling’s spouses? Like, your FI’s sister’s husband and his brother’s two wives? I think it’s ok to exclude them and keep it to immediate family/close friends. You don’t have to include them just to be nice, ya know. Have them do readings if you’d like to still include them. THey’re not immediate blood family; i’m sure they’ll understand, especially having already been married