(Closed) Bridal Party – How do you know when to stop?

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you keep the original party or just add more on?

    Stick with your trusty originals.

    What's a few more?! Add 'em on!

    Involve them in the wedding in some other fashion (usher, reader, etc...).

  • Post # 3
    6593 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    How big is your wedding? If you are having a large wedding you can have a large bridal party but at the same time what do you want to do?

    If you want them – go for it if you are only doing it to stop people’s feelings from getting hurt I would think twice for two reasons:

    <span style=”white-space: pre;”> – the bigger the bridal party the more potential for drama

    <span style=”white-space: pre;”> – you are still likely to hurt someones feelings and if they see that you already have 7 they might understand!

    Post # 5
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    woah. hopefully these ‘extras’ (and your already included maids and men) are all rational adults and will recognize that you’re full up to the gills.

    as for ushers/readers/etc., I’d say don’t find something just because you don’t want to hurt their feelings – that’s kind of insulting in and of itself, like a consolation (or pity) prize.

    J is deadset against having ushers, because he says every time he’s been asked to be an usher, it’s felt like a slap in the face “Oh you’re a second string friend, but I don’t want to tell you that.” *boys*

    Post # 6
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    My wedding party got way huge we went from four to eight but its becasue I wanted to add his cousins that he wa close to but if you already have seven things are going to just get even more exspensive from there.

    Post # 7
    14181 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    By SIL’s and BIL’s, are you talking about the sibling’s spouses? Like, your FI’s sister’s husband and his brother’s two wives? I think it’s ok to exclude them and keep it to immediate family/close friends. You don’t have to include them just to be nice, ya know. Have them do readings if you’d like to still include them. THey’re not immediate blood  family; i’m sure they’ll understand, especially having already been married

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