Post # 1
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Blushing bee
If I don’t get my crap together I’m going to end up with a HUGE bridal party.
I have one sister, three fantastic best friends I’ve had for almost 10 years (hey that’s an eternity for a military brat!) and my FH has 3 amazing sisters who I adore. I couldn’t imagine any of them not being next to me on our big day. Nor could they.
And so there were 7.
My FH also wants his brother, BIL, my brother and BIL on his side, plus his closest friends. So then out of both sides of the family, that leaves two SIL’s and one BIL not included.
It’s obviously a family affair at this point!
Do you add the two extra girls and one guy? Bringing your total to NINE BM’s and 7 GM’s! Or risk hurting their feelings because they weren’t included? I know for a fact one of the girls already had her feelings really hurt in a similar family situation.
So bees, what would you do?
It’s so hard to keep everyone happy, while keeping everything realistic. *Le Sigh*
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
How big is your wedding? If you are having a large wedding you can have a large bridal party but at the same time what do you want to do?
If you want them – go for it if you are only doing it to stop people’s feelings from getting hurt I would think twice for two reasons:
<span style=”white-space: pre;”> – the bigger the bridal party the more potential for drama
<span style=”white-space: pre;”> – you are still likely to hurt someones feelings and if they see that you already have 7 they might understand!
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
It will be a smaller wedding probably 75 – 100. I feel like everyone will be up front! 😉 Thanks for your advice! Much appreciated.
Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
woah. hopefully these ‘extras’ (and your already included maids and men) are all rational adults and will recognize that you’re full up to the gills.
as for ushers/readers/etc., I’d say don’t find something just because you don’t want to hurt their feelings – that’s kind of insulting in and of itself, like a consolation (or pity) prize.
J is deadset against having ushers, because he says every time he’s been asked to be an usher, it’s felt like a slap in the face “Oh you’re a second string friend, but I don’t want to tell you that.” *boys*
Post # 6
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Busy bee
My wedding party got way huge we went from four to eight but its becasue I wanted to add his cousins that he wa close to but if you already have seven things are going to just get even more exspensive from there.
Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
By SIL’s and BIL’s, are you talking about the sibling’s spouses? Like, your FI’s sister’s husband and his brother’s two wives? I think it’s ok to exclude them and keep it to immediate family/close friends. You don’t have to include them just to be nice, ya know. Have them do readings if you’d like to still include them. THey’re not immediate blood family; i’m sure they’ll understand, especially having already been married
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