- White Truffle
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
My fiance and I are planning a simple, non-traditional city hall wedding in a destination location. The ceremony will literally only be five minutes and there will be no aisle to walk down or anything else.
I have no siblings, but I have always dreamed of having my best friend as my maid of honour and I also want my cousin, who has always been more like a sister to me, to be my bridesmaid. Furthermore, my fiance has a sister who I think should be included since she has always been incredibly welcoming and helpful and she is the only sibling either of us have.
As it stands, I’ve asked my friend to be our witness and our young daughter has self-appointed herself as flower girl. However, my fiance wants it to stop there. He’d rather have eloped than have a traditional wedding to begin with and he a) thinks it’s silly to have a bridal party when there’s no aisle and it’s a five minute ceremony, and b) would prefer to not have people “hovering over us while we say our vows,” not to mention the fact that since I’m the one pushing for this it will end up being a flock of women and he’ll be the only man (but that’s because he refuses to choose between his male friends). I suggested that his sister and our daughter stand on his side so that it at least looks balanced for numbers, but that didn’t seem any more appealing to him.
Despite everyone in his family telling him “it’s her day,” we’ve agreed that we want to both be involved and have equal say, and I don’t want to abandon the idea of compromise and mutual agreement, but he just won’t budge and this is really important to me (regardless of how silly it looks to everyone else, which I recognize is probably true).