Post # 1
So to start off I have been engaged for a year now, it has been one trying year! Not because of myself or my Fiance but because of our friends drama! First my fiance’s best man was dating one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man and ended it about 5months after our engagement becasue he has been cheating with multiple women… He then decided to quit his job and move away with one of our group friends who is also one of my bridesmaids very good friends (we’ll not anymore…).Then he got in an arugment with me about a girls trip i had planned with our group of girls…the girl he moved away with paid me a deposit on the girls trip and it was not refundable, he was basically calling me to tell me i needed to pay her the deposit back! I responded in what world? He response to me was to stay the F*ck out of his life… Anyways very heated conversation and i chose not to talk to him and he basically wrote him off. So fiance designated a new best man and kept it moving… Well about 4 months ago he decided to move back since it didnt work out and is trying to start a relationship back with my fiance, my fiance infomred me he would be one of his groomsmen! Im just baffled how a man could disrespect me and be allowed to stand in my wedding! He did say sorry to me.. im sure it was at the request of my fiance but i have pretty much written him off…
So the real drama is my bridesmaid who was once dating him does not feel comfortable staying in the rental house we will be having our wedding at. I totally understand, they were dating for 2 yrs and then he dumps her for one of her friends… i def get it! So i told my fiance he needs to tell him to find another place to stay as i dont feel she should be uncomfortable since she didnt do anything worng! We’ll my fiance said she just needs to get over it!
I feel pretty torn and think me and my fiance should not be affected by this at all beacuse its their issue to deal with! To top it off another of my Bridesmaid or Best Man recently left her fiance who happens to also be in our wedding party, then my fiance’s newly appointed best man just told him his girlfriend is pregnant and is due around the end of May… so we have designated backups but fiance wants the old Best man to step in if need be… I dont even want him in our wedding let alone as his best man!
Bridal party Drama!!!! Any of you dealing with similar situations can help? Or should i just let it be, i mean i have a ton of other things to be worried about! I just dont want to feel like there is a weirdness at our wedding because of this!
Post # 3
Then everybody involved in this hot mess needs to grow up! Two things need to happen here…
1.) You need to tell your Fiance that having this friend in your party is a deal breaker OR you need to come to grips with the fact he will be involved.
2.) You need to tell your Fiance that his friend is not allowed to stay in the same location as your bridal party OR you need to tell your friend to deal with him being there.
Seriously… a wedding is not the time or place to relive what it was like being in highschool!
Post # 4
@musicalrose: thanks! im at the point where im just going to say F it and take out the entire bridal party!
Post # 5
It bothers me that you and your Fiance are at odds over other people’s drama. You should sit down and talk about the best option for everybody instead of taking the side your respective friends.
Post # 6
@AlwaysSunny: I totally agree.. I feel like were children in the middle of a divorce! Im trying to be fair and not basis but it is really hard when i cant stand the old best man in the first place! We were actually bestfriends before him and the fiance were but he lost a bunch of weight and turned in to a douche! He is also one of those types that has to have all of the attention and i dont want to compete with him and his loud antics on my wedding day. I gave in and let my fiance have him in the bridal party, i feel its my fiance’s turn to compromise and tell his buddy to get a hotel…
Post # 7
In your case, all the girls and guys at one house sounds like a drama waiting to happen. I think one group (probably the guys) should all stay somewhere else. Renting a hotel room for them for a couple of nights (whatever it is) seems to be money well spent. That way the GMs and BMs only need to be near each other during the wedding itself.
I think you need to definitely write off the new best man – having your man there for the birth is so important, it’s unfair to expect him to travel interstate, even within a couple of weeks of the due date.
Personally I agree with your fiance about bringing the old best man back – if they stay in another house you don’t really need to interact with him either. From what you say, it was just one (admittedly large) argument, not a long history of rudeness to you.
Post # 8
@paula1248: yeah like Paula said spliting it to two groups is probabbly the best compromise, if you let them stay in one hotel the Bridesmaid or Best Man will be unhappy and if you let him be alone at a different hotel he will probabbly be unhappy, both could probablly led to more drama…