(Closed) Bridal party issue

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Wow….that sucks! Why would it cause a lot of drama? I would just explain to them because you are doing this last minute, you felt that it would be a nice gesture to pay for a tux. Do they have to know that you paid for it?

Post # 4
890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@melisa.lovell:  O geez sounds like what we went through although only our best man flaked.  Which was really sucks my poor Fi was pissed and didn’t share any emotions on it after the fact. sadly he doesn’t talk to him anymore and they were best friends since they were little 🙁  


Why would it cause drama in the family may I ask?  I don’t see why it would but only you know your family the best. :/


As far as your Fi stating he wants the bridal party even, that is a tricky one.  Hopefully if this can not happen maybe he is willing to compromise on a not so even bridal party?  Ours is 6 girls and he only has 4 guys.  


Hopefully it works out well! 😀 Best of luck! 

Post # 6
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it would be easiest to just leave the parties uneven.  Honestly, the guests won’t notice and photographers can position people so that it’s not really noticeable in pictures, especially when the difference is 1 person.  You’re so close to your wedding now that you don’t need the extra stress of finding replacement bridal party members.  At some point, you just have to sigh and go with the flow.

Post # 8
890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@melisa.lovell:  Well I am glad to hear that your Fi best man had a reason mine didn’t he just complete told all of us he is cutting us out of  his life to save his abusive relationship (he lives who knows where now) 🙁  It sucks! 


As for the money spent thats understandable. :/  Hopefully you guys could find a way to use them if you can’t add anymore to the bridal party.  Like maybe a grandfather or uncle could wear a boutoneire?  Wine glass if it has the name on it i would give it to the person it was meant for anyways. lol 😀


I dunno, this one is a little tricky but I am sure it will all work out very well 😀

Post # 10
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Yikes. Sounds like a similar situation that I’m in, although you are a lot closer to your wedding than me. One of my bridesmaids (FH’s step sister) in on the verge of stepping out of the wedding, and I’m considering asking one of the groomsmen’s wives to stand in her place (she understands the situation and wouldn’t feel bad about being a last minute add-on). However, I’m also considering just leaving it uneven, despite the extra BM dress and other things. Just makes it so much simpler.


Considering how close it is to your wedding, it might just be easier to leave it uneven.

Post # 11
5480 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d just leave it uneven.  If symmetry is THAT important to your FI, get some cardboard cut out guys to make it even for the pictures.

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