Post # 1
My sister/officiant is loosing 100 pounds over the next 7 months. We obviously need to get her a dress but her size will drop from the time we order to the time of the wedding. What is the best way to assure that the dress fits her.
1) get an instock dress from Davids Bridal last minute
2) Order a dress two sizes above (she wants to be my weight of 150) mine and tailor it closer to the wedding date.
Post # 3
Not to be a Negative Nancy here, but please be conservative when ordering smaller sizes. Sometimes life gets in the way and the going gets tough, you know? I would maybe order 1 size smaller than she is now but that’s it. It is far easier to take something in than to let it out. Good luck to your sister!
Post # 4
Wait until the month of the wedding and then she can go to a local dept store (any major dept store has special occasion selections that are cheaper and better quality than David’s, etc) and pick out something that she is happy with. Agree with above poster to use extreme caution (in fact, don’t do it at all) when buying smaller sizes when you don’t know what the size is that you really need.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t buy a dress with an expectation of someone losing 100lbs. Buy one size smaller than she is now and plan to alter it.
Post # 6
if she is the officient she shouldn’t need to match anyone else, so I would just let her get a dress when the time comes closer.
Also is she doing like a medically prescribed thing where they have to lose that much or gastric bypass? That is NOT safe! 2 lbs a week is the max recommended unless of course she is being put under medical care during this time
Post # 7
100 pounds in 7 mos? That is a huge undertaking. It normally takes 2-3 years for people to lose that much weight at 4 pounds a month is healthy. She will prolly lose llike 30-40 pounds, that being said have her go to any department store.
Post # 8
Oh I WILL be a Negative Nancy!
100 pounds in 7 months is 14-15 pounds a month–or about 2 pounds per week. Yes, that is considered within the “safe” range for weekly weight loss, but let me tell you as someone who has ‘been there’–2 pounds a month is incredibly hard, and damn near impossible to do consistently. What usually happens is people hear “1-2 pounds per week is safe” and think “Well then, I’m gonna lose 2 pounds!” and it doesn’t really work that way. It’s slightly more attainable if you are severely overweight (250 usually isn’t that, though), but even then, I’ve known quite a few women who started at much higher weights and 2 pounds per week was a nice surprise–not the norm.
Now, that’s not to say that your sister won’t be one of the weight loss anomalies or that it’s never happened before, but I would stress that given the unlikeliness she will lose THAT much and you don’t know how much she WILL lose, I would be conservative when it comes to dress sizing. For one, any tailor will tell you it is MUCH, MUCH easier to take in a dress than to let one out–and for all but very complicated dresses, most seamstresses can take a dress down by 3-4 sizes (I know, I’ve done it). So I wouldn’t go much smaller than what she is now and take it in as needed.
On another note, I don’t mean for this to be discouraging to you or your sister–I think it’s great that she’s committed to losing weight, but I think it’s equally important to be realistic. If you’re too focused on a difficult goal, you won’t see the forest for the trees and in weight loss, it’s extremely important to celebrate every lost ounce and not to view a .5 pound loss in a week as a “setback” just because it’s not your aspirational 2 pounds.
Post # 9
It took me 2 years to lose ~80 lbs (208-130)–100 lbs in 7 months is not going to happen. Wait until shortly the wedding, do not waste money on a dress that is too small for her. Losing weight is hard enough and if she is doing something extreme enough to cause her to lose 2 lbs a week, she’s going to fall off the wagon at some point. Successful weightloss is a long haul and it’s about making small, progressive, sustainable lifestyle changes. Doing something drastic like what you would need to do to be dropping 100 lbs in 7 months is not sustainable, small or progressive. 7 months is a long time to work out every day and only eat lettuce.
Be supportive and tell her that you’d prefer to wait until closer to the wedding to get her a dress since you have no idea where she will lose the weight from. She may surprise you and totally work it but even then, so much weightloss so rapidly is going to leave her with loose skin and who knows where that weight is going to come from. She needs to wear a dress that fits the largest part of her and tailor it down to fit the rest–who knows where that will be. It could be her hips, her chest, her midsection, no one knows.
Post # 10
Hmm, I wouldn’t bank on her losing that much weight in 7 months. I think you guys should wait 3-4 months to see how she is progressing and order the dress for whatever size she is at that time. If she continues to lose she can have the dress altered prior to the wedding.
Post # 11
@BothCoasts: Actually, 100lbs in 7 months is more like 3.5 lbs per week, but depending on how you lose the weight, this can still be healthy.
OP, I would wait until a month or so before the wedding and get a dress off the rack. Then she’s not stuck with a dress that doesn’t fit or is way to big.
Post # 12
The weight loss isn’t really a will she or won’t she. She started a diet program last week and has already lost 10 pounds (yes its mostly water weight, but still). Its like a shake diet/life style workshop that lasts as long as you want to pay for it. And we are both aware of how 100 lbs in 7months sounds, but that result is very attainable in the program.
But my questions are how long do most dresses take to ship and then on top of that how long do they take to alter. I figure pregnant ladies do this all the time but in reverse.
Post # 13
get it last minute.
yeah…. 100lbs in 7 months sounds bad because it IS, no matter what program or fad diet. Those are not realistic or healthy expectations, she will either be very dissapointed or very sick by your wedding day.
Post # 14
@teabiscuit: 100% agree. Unhealthy full stop. It always starts with a bang, but soon peters out to a normal healthy loss.
Post # 15
Buy the dress at the last minute. Don’t let her get a size she thinks she’ll be, and then get disappointed when she isn’t that size. It took me several months to lose 20 pounds. I can’t imagine how long it would take me to lose 100 pounds!
Post # 16
The bigger you are the faster it comes off, generally. I lost 80 lbs in 5.5 months. I ate like a horse, exercised a few times a week but nothing major, but cut out all sugar and flour and processed foods and I only ate things that were good for me, real food…lots of fruit, veggies and lean protiens.
Wait until 3-4 months out and see how she is doing, then worry about the dress.