- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
Hello my bees. So I am in a really awkward situation for myself.
Pre-Warning, may be a tad long.
So my whole bridal party is made up of family except for one person! I have had no problems with any of them and I really hope not too! Seeing as i don’t see the point in getting into with any of them. The one person that is not family and is a friend will call her C. We have only known eachother since May 2012.
Yes it is a very recent friendship and we have been planning since Feb. I wasn’t going to add her at all but my fi being his nice self lol added C bf to his side which made C by defult add to my side. I didn’t have a problem with it because we were growing close. The 4 of us hung out a lot almost every weekend.
Fast Forward to August:
All of that changed come August. They just dropped of the radar completely! Fi and I wondered if we did something you know? The last we saw them was for my birthday in July and C bf birthday. (Which didn’t go well on Fi and C bf side, another long story). We thought that was what distanced them from us because they blame themselves for what happened which is true but we looked past it so we weren’t sure why we were being ignored.
Then finally we started to hear from them here and there.
Fast Forward to last month September:
We thought everything was going fine and that they were just really busy that why we all stopped hanging out a lot. Which was fine we all have lives. We saw them once last month to hang out on the strip. But they ditched us after an hour. Which was wierd. Again Fi thought we did something.
I sent out the timelines for Dec 6 and Dec 7th to everyone so they know what was going on. Thats when we heard from them again but all they said was “We got your mail, fyi” and I was glad to hear from them but when I tried to text back nothing. (they are not phone call people, trust me! lol which sucks cause I am. lol)
My whole family especailly my aunty (Matron of Honor) does not like her C at all. Everytime we do something that brings up the bridal party my aunty asks why she is still apart of it because she is pretty much MIA. They have all made their opinions for the last 4 months. They even told me to find out if they really want to be a part of this wedding. I didn’t really ask that until today. Becasue I had no other choice.
My father called to ask if they really wanted to be a part of it becasue they never sent in a RSVP. It never bothered me they didn’t because they were a part of the bridal party. But, my parents are paying for the full thing and my father is the one making the seating chart to take that stress off of me which was greatful of him! 😀 So i text C.
I told her “My parents want to know if you two are really coming to the wedding cause they never received your RSVP.”
((As a person i just cut to the chase and say how it is.))
She then responded with ” Well I”M SORRY i figured because we were in the wedding party.. We didn’t have to send the RSVP BACK TO YOU.. but if necessary then I’ll send it tomorrow.”
I told her that would be great and stated it was for my father and i didn’t really care.
She again responds, “SORRY, ILL SEND IT TOMORROW.”
That was the end of the conversation. At this point I am not sure what is going on :(. I can’t tell by her texts if they are just showing up to show up because they already commited. I know I am going to hear it again from the family lol this week when i see them and not really sure what to tell them this time. That yea she said she will send it in and they go yeah right. Whatever. lol
Bees… I am not sure if i want advice, your opinions on C. I have already posted in previous post a while back that a few of my girls made me feel like a horrible bride and you all made me feel happy again. http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/hi-my-bees.
So i don’t know if its me, If its the whole ordeal that happened with FI and C bf. I just don’t know but I have a gut feeling they just hate us. lol
Sorry for making it a novel. Thank you for reading this far if you did! 😀
EDIT: What happened at C bf party:
My fi took C bf out during his birthday so C can decorate for the party. Fi did this as a favor for C and to also do a guys night out because its been a LONG time since he has done one. However, I got a little annoyed because FI and I had a fight before he left but that was only between us. Well it didn’t get better becasue after 1130 pm Fi stopped texting me (he was texting me all night , tipsy you know.) Well FI isn’t a drinker at ALL!!. He only ususaly does one beer or 2. Well…. Guess what he got drunk off 3 games of beer pong! Well C bf didn’t know he couldn’t hold his beer so he just let him drink and drink and drink! best part of it fi was the designated DRIVER!!.. So I had to pick Fi up from C bf place next day and take him to get his car. Fi and I made up after a few days because I was upset about what happened before he left but also for letting C bf edge him on like that (not a really friend thing to do i personally think). Fi understood. Next day C text saying they were sorry cuz it was all their fault for not being responsible ect. but we forgave them after Fi said yea your guys fault. We thought everything was cool. :/ Guess not huh?
Thats sums it up! 😀