(Closed) Bridal party number…..

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Kslim13:  We compromised. I wanted 3, Fiance wanted 2. So we had 2 each, and my 3rd choice girl did a reading. Fortunately it was an easy decision – she wasn’t as close as my sister or my best friend so I’m sure she wasn’t too worried about not being a bridesmaid.

I suggest you have 3 each, and you and your fiance finds roles for the other 3 guys (e.g. a reading and 2 ushers). Of course this will depend on whether your fiance can clearly draw a line between his 3 closest and next 3 closest. i.e. a lot depends on finding a number which naturally “works”.

Other people will say mismatched numbers are fine, and you can do that if you want. But (just my personal opinion) 6 is a lot of guys to have up there when they don’t really have anything to do.

Post # 3
1378 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I agree with PP – that’s a really big gap in terms of mismatching.

I actually ran into the same problem! Fiance has tons of friends and I have….like 2 that I definitely wanted, and another girl I could ask (she has some extenuating problems that I don’t want her to feel that she has to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but she is a really good friend). Fiance wanted 4-6 Groomsmen, and I said I could do 3. He really doesn’t like mismatching at all, and a couple friends of his are military, so it was relatively easy to drop his side down to 3 as well. 

Post # 4
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I was in a wedding where there were 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 6 Groomsmen, when we walked out of the church we had a guy on each arm, it looked fine in the pics and it made for some different group shots.  It was Brides 2 brother’s and Grooms Boyfriend or Best Friend, and Grooms sister and brides’ two bff’s (i’m one of the friends :D).  

Post # 5
29 posts

My Fiance was going to have his Bridesmaid or Best Man and then definitely his brother and my brother as Groomsmen. Aside from that, any other Groomsmen were dependent upon the number of people in my bridal party (6 including the MOH). Mind you, I went from wanting 0 (not even a MOH) to 6! Most people advise that the higher the number, the more stress (it’s harder to organize larger groups of people). 3 is a good number. Personally, I wanted an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, but if you’re ok with it, then that’s cool.

Post # 6
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I am planning on having two, and Fiance is having… none! I am fine with this discrepancy and so is he. He’s just not close enough to anyone to want them to stand up with him, and there are only two people in my life that I feel that close to. Ultimately, we just wanted to do what was right for us, not what would look good i photos. 

Post # 7
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Well as it stands right now Fiance will have his 3 closest friends and my brother. I am at zero right now. I was planning to include his sister but she’s gotten very unpleasant since Fiance and I got engaged so I’m less sure of including her. 2 years ago I had 4 close girlfriends including one best friend and little by little they’ve disappeared from my life with no warning or explaination. I could decide to include my half sisters who I don’t know well but I think that would be a lot of pressure on me and them.

So I’m struggling with the idea of our Wedding Party being so uneven.

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