(Closed) Bridal Party Photos, do +1s tag along?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should my bridal party +1's tag along for photos? (after ceremony/before reception)
    Yes, they deserve to be there : (7 votes)
    15 %
    No, they don't need to be there : (14 votes)
    29 %
    No, suggest they meet us at reception venue when we're done (before it starts) : (25 votes)
    52 %
    Other (Below) : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    In the past, as a date to someone in the wedding party, I have tagged along and just watched or gone to a nearby bar or something with the other dates… For my wedding, our party limo/bus won’t fit anyone beyond the wedding party, so they will not be tagging along.  I think it is whatever works out best logistically.. location, etc.  Good luck! 🙂

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    OMG, I never even thought of that. I want JUST the wedding party. I think they are all adults and that they can occupy themselves for a couple hours. All though if someone really wanted the SO to be there I’m not going to stress myself out over it.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I didn’t have this issue with my wedding (all came alone except one couple who were both in the party), but in the wedding I was in the dates entertained themselves for a while.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think it helps if the dates of the bridal party have a chance to get to know each other before the wedding, like at the rehearsal.  That has made a big difference for me when I’m with a groomsmen and don’t know that many people. If they are comfortable with each other or know other people at the wedding . . . I would say let them head to the reception. 

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Well, from personal experience: My Fiance has been in two weddings, both where the ceremony and reception were in the same place. For the first one, I didn’t really know anyone (and it wasn’t open bar!) so I sat on a bench outside while he did pictures and we went in to the reception together. For the second, I knew a bunch of people so I went to the reception and chatted a bit, but I got bored and eventually went to harass Fiance during the pictures and I stole his champagne (the bride and groom were close friends so I didn’t feel bad). 🙂

     

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I think it depends. Considering the length of your gap, I don’t think its unreasonable for the dates to attend. I know at the weddings I’ve been in, SO didn’t know a soul there, so I do think in that case, it was nice that he could tag along (more accurately, the ceremony and reception were at the same place, so there was nowhere to go). It was nice because then when I was done with the pictures, I had someone to hang out with.  While I agree that they are all adults, I think considering the length of your gap, it would be nice to include the dates if they chose to tag along. That’s a large amount of time to be away from your date at a wedding, especially since your bridal party won’t be in all the pictures, so then they’ll have someone there to keep them company.

    Post # 10
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We are renting a party bus, and at other weddings my Fiance has been in I have been welcomed on the bus to pictures.  We have groomsmen in the wedding that are married/engaged so we are inviting their spouse on the bus, and to pictures.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    In our case, there wouldn’t have been room for the +1’s to accompany us in the limo, so they would have had to follow the limo in their own cars.  That’s just one more thing to worry about with people getting lost and stuff.  It’s boring as heck to watch people get their pictures taken; none of my bridal party’s +1’s even asked to join us.  They all headed down to the reception and pre-partied until we got there.  🙂

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @M.Ruder: Trust me, it’s hard enough to get everyone to stop chatting long enough to look at the camera, but add some +1’s that aren’t even in the picture, and it’ll be a coordination nightmare.  You’re paying for a photographer to come in and take pictures, and you’re probably under a schedule, so hopefully your mom can see that side of the situation.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I said other I’ve been the +1 and I wish I had had an option to not come! My SO was in the Bridal Party and the wedding was about 1.5 hours from where live. They did the photos before the ceremony (followed right away by a reception) but I think it still took about 4 hours. I stayed with the other dates and we ended up driving ourselves to get food since we were hungry and there was no food being served. Also we were beyond bored, we were basically in the middle of nowhere (except for the fast food) and it was a really hot day.

    Honestly I think if the dates have something to do it’s fine but I’m going to guess that in this case it’s going to be hot, they will be outside, everyone will be hungry and thirsty. It’s just best for them to meet their dates at the reception. 

     

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Let them come with and watch–even though they aren’t in pictures it’s most likely where they want to be.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m guessing you’re not doing 3.5 hours of pictures. Why not have them meet you wherever you’ll be spending the majority of your time?

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