(Closed) Bridal party pressure

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1569 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

When someone asks you to be a bridesmaid, that does not obligate you to ask them to be one of your bridesmaids. Look it up in any etiquette guide. 🙂 Feel free to ask whomever you want, and hopefully she’ll take it just fine.

Post # 4
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It sounds like she didn’t pick you for any sentimental reason to begin with so I agree there’s no reason for you to ask her. You gotta have the people you love up there with you not just someone you feel obligated to have.

Post # 5
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with the girls.  Don’t feel pressured to have her be in your wedding party.  She’ll understand.

Post # 6
2186 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

no pressure! choose who you want. you are not obligated to choose anyone based on whether you were in their wedding- as said before any etiquette book will echo this…

Post # 7
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I don’t think the bride would care. Not only are you not obligated to ask people whose weddings you have been in, she didn’t even instigate the offer. No worries – save explaining this to your mom and sister.

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