Post # 1
So a few years back a cousin of mine got married. We aren’t exactly super close, but we aren’t distant either (make sense?) She lives out of state and was at my house about 8ish months before her wedding, she mentioned her husband having more groomsman than her bridesmaids. My grandmother suggested she have me in her wedding, I was at the table during this discussion so I feel as if she felt a little pressured to have me in. Or figured what the hell, it’s not like she had to pay for much for me to be in it and why not make things even with her husband. So here I am, recently engaged and discussing bridesmaids with my mother and sister. I only want 3-4 people as my bridesmaids and I didn’t include her in on it. My mother and sister suggested that its only right to have her in it because I was in heres. I don’t want a big bridal party and my fiance won’t be having many either. We mainly want those who have been there for us to be standing up for us. Thoughts or suggestions??
Post # 3
When someone asks you to be a bridesmaid, that does not obligate you to ask them to be one of your bridesmaids. Look it up in any etiquette guide. 🙂 Feel free to ask whomever you want, and hopefully she’ll take it just fine.
Post # 4
It sounds like she didn’t pick you for any sentimental reason to begin with so I agree there’s no reason for you to ask her. You gotta have the people you love up there with you not just someone you feel obligated to have.
Post # 5
I agree with the girls. Don’t feel pressured to have her be in your wedding party. She’ll understand.
Post # 6
no pressure! choose who you want. you are not obligated to choose anyone based on whether you were in their wedding- as said before any etiquette book will echo this…
Post # 7
I don’t think the bride would care. Not only are you not obligated to ask people whose weddings you have been in, she didn’t even instigate the offer. No worries – save explaining this to your mom and sister.