Post # 1
Oh no…having a guilty spell.
Originally wanted to have my maids in the perfect apple green dresses, because the boys would be wearing brown suits and I thought we NEEDED more color.
Now the wedding is outside, and I’m wondering if I should let the girls do $40 brown dresses from Target and somehow find green shirts (maybe) for the guys, so they don’t have to wear suit jackets. Maybe the girls could have green parasols, I don’t know.
My other option is $115 appletini dresses by Alfred Sung.
Just trying to be nice, since the girls are buying their own dresses. Though I’d miss the green, maybe it’d be the right thing to do? Not sure the maids were overly excited about green. What to do, what to do ladies???
Post # 3
I think you should do what you want. $115 is not alot for a bridesmaid dress, although obviously $40 is more appealing. Did you tell them a choice already and want to change it? Our wedding was outside and the guys had on full suits (in June) and everyone was fine. Plus the ceremony was only about 20 minutes and then we moved inside for the reception.
I do think the green dresses with the brown suits for the guys sounds really nice. My SIL had kelly green dresses for us and brown suits for the guys and it looked great!
Post # 4
Both options aren’t that much money. Also, when people agree to be in your wedding they understand the financial aspect that comes along with being a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
I am going with a $220 dress and my girls are buying them themselves. Don’t feel bad, you have enough to stress about!
Post # 5
I’m trying to figure out my bridesmaid dresses right now, and I’m feeling really guilty too. The one I’m looking at is $295 though, so I’m going to offer to pay for part of them and figure the extra cost into our budget. You should just go with the dress you like better, most girls expect to spend about $200 on a dress when they agree to be in a wedding!
Post # 6
I felt so guilty about making my bridesmaids pay for their dresses (3 of the 6 were in college, not working, no money, and 3 graduated with me and just barely had jobs by the time i got married) so we ended up making their dresses for $25/dress. My mom has mad skills though.
I just feel bad asking someone to spend so much money, especially if I know they can’t afford it. And just because the phrase is “what goes around comes around”, meaning I’ll end up buying a dress for their wedding, doesn’t mean it feels right to me.
I actually really like the idea of the brown dresses, green shirts, and green parasols. Or even green ties (places like Kohl’s and Dillards should have plenty) over an appletini-colored dress.
Have you looked at any JCrew dresses? I know lots of girls get their dresses there. They have this one and this one is way cute and this one is GREEN and comes in clover.
If you think you feel guilty now, think about all the other stuff they’ll be doing for you! Every little bit you do for them is nice. After all, they’ll be throwing you showers, parties, buying you wedding gifts, and being supportive.