- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
My Maid/Matron of Honor, who is also my best friend, is being really difficult. She dislikes any dresses that I show her, but when I ask her to come up with something, she can’t. She knows out stressed I am already with wedding planning since I’m doing everything from out-of-town. I was the Maid/Matron of Honor for her wedding and accepted everything she threw at me. I’m a seamstess so I let her pick the style, the fabric and the colour and did everything according to her desire. And when she told me she wanted me to wear gold shoes, I went out and got them even though I thought they didn’t go with the color of my dress. I was hoping she would return the favor.
Then there is one of my oldest friends who told me up front she wanted to be a bridesmaid. I initially didn’t pick her, since she had shown no interest in my engagement. But since she is my childhood friend, I thought it made sense to have her as a bridesmaid. What a mistake! She doesn’t do anything. She didnt come shopping with the other bridesmaids. My mom and I are making the dresses and when I showed her the fabric and style, no reaction what’s so ever. She even told me not to expect her to be in the pictures because she doesn’t like being photographed…What the heck?!?!?!
I feel that the other two bridesmaids have been so supportive and helpful that it’s almost unfair to them to have my friend as a bridesmaid. But I know that if I tell her that I don’t want her in the party, it will be the end of our friendship (which is already a bit fragile to be honest).
I dont know what to do. I have been more than accomodating with the bridal party. I’ve let them pick their colors, their fabric and styles and try to involve them in every decision. Sometimes I think it would have just been better to be a bride dictator!!!