Post # 1
My wedding is coming up quickly…the next 3 months will fly. The entire wedding planning process has been exhausting, with a few good months here and there. Without going too far into it, around 2 years ago, I lost around 5 good girlfriends of mine. I have always had an amazing best friend who I’ve known since 3rd grade. She has been around for the planning of my wedding as much as possible (she lives in a different country at the moment) and due to my fall out with my other close friends, my help/support has been limited. So, with 3 months to go, I have my best friend as my maid of honor, and that’s it. A part of me feels silly, sad, or even a little embarrassed to have one person by my side on my wedding. Yet, I know that it’s meant for those who have stuck by your side as a friend. But, I can’t help feeling just bad about the entire situation.
In addition, I stopped contact with my own mother around March due to very selfish ways on her part and just a very toxic relationship. SO, with the friends or the mother of the bride, I feel so alone. Should I even have a maid of honor or is it just going to look ridiculous to have one person? Due to this, my groom will only have his best man. I see wedding photos of other brides/grooms who have around 6 people each, and it is something I wish I had.
I’m just not willing to go make “friends” so that I can have a larger bridal party…I am one who believes in close friendships and those come with time.
Not sure what to do. Feel so lost with this aspect of the wedding. Please let me know your thoughts…I’d love to know.
Post # 3
It is pretty uncommon to have more than one or two BM’s or GM’s where I am from so for me wedding picks with 6 or more BM’s makes me go WOW!
Focus on the fact that you are surrounding yourself with the peope that love you and that is all that matters on your wedding day.
As far as the sadness at not having many friends- maybe after the wedding you can work on ways to expand your social circle and make some new friends. I find joining a class or a sports team is a great way to make new friends.
I only had one person standing next to me and my Darling Husband had two. The number wasn’t important- the important part was that they were the people who were supporting and witnessing our marriage.
Post # 4
I actually chose to just have a Maid/Matron of Honor. Made planning soo much easier for me. She is my baby sis who is mentally challenged so she really can’t help with planning stuff either. I have close friends, but they live back in LA. I don’t have a huge amount of close friends in AZ now so I can relate. Seems like when you are adult it is harder to make new friends as well.
I wouldn’t feel bad about it at all. Think of it this way….you are saving yourself a lot of money and drama by not having a larger wedding party.
Like the PP said, focus on the wedding and having the people that mean the most of you there. Quality over quantity
And maybe after the wedding try to make some new friends. I know me and my Fiance are hoping to make more “couple” friends that share our faith after the wedding. We are gonna try to get more involved in our church and hopefully make some friends there.
Post # 5
There’s nothing wrong with just having a maid of honour. You should only include people that you really want to be in your wedding and who you will still have some relationship with down the road. A wedding is not a popularity contest.
If it makes you feel any better, we’re not having any attendants. I have very few friends and my only close female friend is terminally ill and probably won’t even be able to attend. She’s the only friend I would have been interested in asking. I do have three sisters and three brothers, but I didn’t ask any of them because I couldn’t ask one of them without asking all of them and it would have been a huge financial burden on my family. My fiance’s family all lives in Germany and we don’t even know if any of them can come (two of them might, but it’s iffy) and none of his friends from here in Australia can come. It’s just too big a trip for most of them. So it will be just the two of us and I don’t think anyone is going to have a problem with it.
We’re also saving some money because we won’t need the photographer for as long, since there won’t be any big group shots to coordinate and we also don’t need to pay the officiant to come do a rehearsal.
I do understand how you feel and I felt that way at first, too, when I started planning and realised I really didn’t have that many friends anymore. But the more I thought about it, the more I realised it didn’t matter and all the people I really care about are still going to be there. I’m sure your wedding will be just beautiful no matter how many attendants you have. And of course, the most important person to you will be right there beside you pledging to love you for the rest of his life. What more could you ask for? 🙂