Post # 1
Was wondering what people’s thoughts were about having 4 total members on my side in the bridal party, and making two “Maid of Honors” and two “Bridesmaids”. Do you think that sets these girls up to feel that they are tier 1 and tier 2? We are all equal friends, but I am having two MOHs as I have been one several times, and it’s just SO much easier to have a partner to plan with. Also, the two MOHs had me and the other respectively as theirs.
Would you feel offended if you were in this set up and “only” a BM? Should I consider adding another woman to my Bridal party? My fiance has someone he can add if needed.
Post # 2
Pebba1027: I would not feel offended to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. One would think that most women old enough to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man would know that it is common practice to have a Maid or Matron of Honor. Some brides do have Maids or Matrons of Honor.
Post # 3
julies1949: Thank you for your reply! I was just worried with the total number being four that the two bridesmaids would somehow feel less, since most of the wedding parties I’ve been in have 6-8 girls on each side.
Post # 4
I don’t know, I do think it sends a tier 1 and 2 signal. I’m sure all 4 bridesmaids would be happy to help you plan and don’t forget that all 4 bridesmaids are giving you their time, all paying for the dress, etc. Personally, I think you should just have 4 bridesmaids. If 1 is a relative or in some other way differentiated, then you can have that person be a Maid/Matron of Honor, but if they’re all the same group of friends, then, yes, I would be a touch hurt if I was tier 2.
Post # 5
jamb: Hi Jamb-that is my fear. I think the solution might be to have all bridesmaids, but I think then my MOHs will be offended as well. It’s fun to be a bride! 😉 Thanks for your reply!