(Closed) Bridal Party Thoughts- I want one, he doesn't!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I have a one-sided bridal party?

    Just siblings, my friends will understand

    Bridal party + MOH + Best Man= MOH/Best man stand, bridal party sits down

  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I think some people in certain parts of the US do something similar – called a house bridal party or something like that? Where certain people sit and certain people stand, but honestly I think it’s a bit insulting. I would not want to go through all the fanfare of being part of the bridal party – buying a dress, probably planning parties, spending all day doing pictures and getting ready, etc. only to not be “good enough” to stand up with the bride and groom. I would rather be a guest at that point and wear an outfit of my choosing, show up at the ceremony a few minutes before start time, and enjoy myself. 

    I do have a friend that had a few bridesmaids that stood up at the ceremony, as usual, (I think 4) and her husband had only his dad as best man – it was fine.

    Post # 3
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    Bumble bee

    Your bridal parties do not have to be even.

    he can have one groomsmen standing next to him and you can have 5 ladies up next to you. 

    When this has happened, I’ve seen the ladies walk out one by one. I’ve seen the ladies walk in pairs as well. And I’ve seen photos of groomesman walking with 2 bridesmaids.

    if he only wants one and you want 6, maybe compromise? He gets one and you get 3-4?…..

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee

    I think that seems like a pretty great compromise. 

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee

    Weve just been through this debate ourselves (settled on having 1 best man, 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 bridesmaid= all family). I would keep it small as a compromise for him. Have your brother and sister up with you and your FI’s brother as best man. Your friends will still be at the wedding, and it will be much less complicated than organising who sits and who stands without trying to offend and also trying to find roles for each person. Your friends will understand if you keep the bridal party to family only. It will be much less stressful on your part and your friends. You can still have them in special photos with you if you request it to your photographer 🙂

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee

    In reality, it’s whatever you want and whatever makes you comfortable. For our wedding I had a Maid/Matron of Honor and a Flower Girl. DH couldn’t pick between his two best friends growing up so he opted to not have anyone stand up with him. 

     

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