(Closed) Bridal party trouble

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3150 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Try to frame it in a positive way. Don’t approach her with a dramatic explanation or apology. Simply say you and your fiancé would like her to have a role in the wedding as a reader and leave it at that!

Post # 4
7685 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Without trying to sound harsh, it’s not your fault that the upset friend will (maybe) never be a bridesmaid. So don’t feel guilty.

Like PP says, try to be upbeat. And have an answer if she queries you, something like this:

“I know, but I had to ask Alice because we’ve been friends since we were 13. I couldn’t choose so I went with who I’ve known the longest, it was the only fair way. But you are also a special friend and so I’d be really honoured if you could do a reading” etc etc

Also try to involve her in the hens’ night if you’re having one and she can be there for it.

Post # 5
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

What about asking her to be your “personal attendant”.  It will make her feel special giving her a “title” but they really don’t do anything except maybe help you go to the bathroom (haha).  Give her a small gift and let her wear some flowers and call it a day.

Post # 7
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can you make her an usher or a reader?  

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