Post # 1
Sorry if this is long..
My bridal party consists of my Maid/Matron of Honor (best friend since preschool), and four bridesmaids (Cousin, Sister in law, work friend and friend). I had a pretty long engagement and asked these girls to be in the wedding about a 14 months ago. My work friend and I don’t really talk anymore, ever. When we see each other it feels very awkward because I think we both know we have grown apart. (Mostly because I am now working a new job, so we really don’t see eachother nearly as much.) My other friend has actually been dating my brother, and I recently found out from my brother that they aren’t going to last much longer, theyre basically waiting until their lease runs out in June. (Wedding is June 15th.)
Now my dillemma is having a bridesmaid that I really never talk to, ever. And a bridesmaid that had just gone through or will shortly go through a break up with my brother. I keep imagiing myself looking at myw edding pictures years from now and it makes me sad.. Is it really a big deal to have a couple people in the wedding that I will have no contact with in the future? Should I talk to them about how distant we have been lately? It’s just a sensitive subject, especially with my brothers (almost) ex. I don’t know what to do or if I should just let it go..
Has anyone ever been in a similar situation?
Post # 3
@jennabug: I wonder if you just need to sit down and have a good chat with this bridesmaid about where things are going with your friendship – I feel like one way or another, you’ll get clarification and it will weigh less heavily on you looking forward. Good luck!
Post # 4
i would try to get ppl in the wedding that you actually speak too, Im kinda in the same spot, but it’s my 2nd cousin , we dont speak but i just wanted a family memeber in my wedding… but if the almost ex girlfriend is an ex, i wont have her in the wedding , bc you will never see or speak to her again, Your wedding should be full of people that wish you the best and are in your life
Post # 5
My SIL had a friend in her wedding that she had a falling out with right after the wedding. She doesn’t really care that shes in all of the pictures. My SIL is also CRAZY so thats probably a bad example.
I don’t know if I’d have someone in my wedding party that I’m not really close to anymore. You should definitely have a talk with the old co-worker. If you both no the friendship is on its last leg she may not be offended at not being in your wedding party. I don’t know how to address the other friend. Was she your friend before she started dating your brother?
Post # 6
regarding work friend- call her up and plan a catch up date. If you were close before just becasue you don’t work together does not mean you still can’t be close.
As for bro’s g/f – Is she in Bridal Party solely cause she is bro’s g/f? If you are not her friend and won’t continue the relationship once they don’t live together, then by all means tell her that becasue of the circumstances you don’t feel right having her in your Bridal Party.
Post # 7
i think it would be great to have a chat with all of your girls.
Talk with them before they buy dresses!!!!
Post # 8
Definitely talk to them. Like you said, the last thing you want to do is look at pictures years down the road and be like, “I don’t even know that girl anymore.”