Bridal Party vs No Bridal Party

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2018

It sounds like you are way more into NOT having one. That is fine! Don’t let anyone pressure you into it – it’s your day. 🙂 We decided to have a small bridal party to keep things easy, but if you can’t do that because you’re afraid that certain people might feel left out, then no bridal party is probably the better way to go.

Post # 3
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Your wedding, your choice.

You don’t need to explain yourselves or make a big deal out of it… just don”t mention it at all, and if anyone asks you outright just say you’ve decided not to have one.

Post # 4
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1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Our bridal party was just a flower girl and ring bearer. All of our closest friends lived far away, and would have been difficult to coordinate. One of my sisters was very pregnant and Darling Husband and his brother were estranged at the time of our wedding. Not having a bridal party made our lives and the lives of our friends much easier. 

One friend did tell me that she was disappointed to not be picked as a bridesmaid but that she totally understood why we didn’t have any. Another friend (my hs bestie and I was her MOH) probably was a little hurt – she kept talking about how her mom thought it was weird that I wasn’t having a bridal party and I suspect she agreed. 

But I invited my would be bridal party to get ready with me. I paid for their hair/makeup if they wanted it and gave them fun robes to wear (Not as photo props bc we didn’t do getting ready pics) and we had a great time. And I think overall they did appreciate not having to get dresses and all of that stuff. 

Post # 5
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3538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

There is absolutely nothing wrong with forgoing the bridal party, and I really don’t think anyone will be offended. It’s one thing to feel hurt or left out when someone you’re close with has a bridal party and leaves you out of it. Not having one at all doesn’t seem hurtful to me at all. 

Do what you want to do! If anything, those that would have been in your bridal party may end up just relieved they don’t have to take on all the related expenses! lol

My Fiance and I are leaning towards only having a Best Man and a Maid/Matron of Honor (his close friend and my sister-in-law).

Post # 6
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244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Vaughan, ON

My brother and my SIL had a hard time with this as well. It was either none or many; so they compromised. They each picked one special person to stand with them. 
I opted for 2 bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen. Simpler the better in my opinion. sometimes with a large party too many opinions clash and it just becomes so much drama. I’ve seen it multiple times. Obviously its also many less people you have to worry about getting organized lol.
Just remember its your and your fiances choice! dont let others talk you into or swaying you from what you want.

Post # 7
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8774 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

rozannab :  

Dear OP, I more or less stopped reading after you said you really didn’t want a wedding party and then agreed to have  FOURTEEN people stand up with  you !!!. This would be vast logistsics and a huge  PITA .

Go back to your original plan,  none is fine !

If you really feel you have to, just have your sister and he has  one brother . As for   this ” if I chose just my sister she may not be able to handle everything on her own because of her age.” I am assuming she  is very young rather than very old? There is really no ‘everything ‘ for her to handle , bachelorettes and showers  and the like aren’t mandatory . Stick to your roriginal  laid back simple version ,. 

Post # 8
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678 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I really wanted to have no bridal party. I think it cuts down on cost and added stress. My sister and my fiancé best friend had their heart set on it so we decided to do just them and my niece and nephew as the flower girl ring bearer. 

Post # 9
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956 posts
Busy bee

We did not have a bridal party this time around (second marriage) and it was soooo much less stressful than either of our first weddings with bridal parties. If I had to choose a bridal party, I easily would have had 5-6 attendants, which seemed like overkill, so not having any was the best way to go. Don’t regret it for a moment!

Post # 10
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4 posts
Wannabee

We also opted to not have a bridal party, and are going the unconventional route of walking down the aisle together. We wanted our wedding to be a reflection of us and our relationship and committment to one another and not a financial burden and/or logistical nightmare for everyone involved! Our wedding is coming up in a few weeks and so far we have absolutely no regrets about our decision. Everyone who is close to us understood completely and we didn’t receive any backlash at all. My fiance’s brother planned a bachelor weekend away despite the lack of an “official title” of best man and I had close friends organize small lunch/dinner celebrations for me, and I think we’ve both made it clear to all our people that our decision is in no way a reflection of how much we care about them and appreciate them being a part of our lives. It sounds like you’re comfortable with your decision, hopefully your family and friends will all understand and support you! 

Post # 11
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3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

We didn’t have a bridal party. My Darling Husband didn’t have any interest in having one and after being a bridesmaid, I  decided the role was completely unnecessary and I didn’t want the stress that can come with it and I am so happy with our decision. I loved the fact that it was just the two of us up there, we didn’t have any extra people to coordinate or organize, and we didn’t have to put out our family and friends with any inconvenient money or time contributions. 

If you guys don’t want a bridal party, don’t have one. You won’t miss it. 

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