(Closed) Bridal Party – Whats the right number – help!!!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

nah, 6 is fine.  i’ve got 6 and we’re inviting 175.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

you can have any number of attendants you like, no matter what the size of your wedding is 🙂 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think that sounds totally fine.  I am having 6 BM’s, and Fiance is having 6 or 7 groomsmen, and we’re inviting about 230 people (figure anywhere from 170-230 will actually show up).  I’ve heard of the “rule” or guideline that you should only have one Bridesmaid or Best Man for every 50 guests or whatever.  I really think this is a flexible standard depending on the situation.  Your BM’s should be chosen based on who is important to you, not a quota you need to fill or a cap you need to impose.  So if, for example, someone is inviting 100 people to her wedding and wants 5 ladies to be her BM’s because she has a close relationship with each of them, I see no problem with that.  I think it’s only weird where the bridal party is hugely out of balance with the size of the wedding itself – like 10 BM’s in a wedding of 50 or 60 guests.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Congrats on wedding planning!  I was just reading about this in my Emily Post etiquette book last night. The “rule of thumb” is about 1 bridesmaid per 50 guests. So 200 guests = 4 bridesmaid, 150 = 3. 

Consider, how big is the altar? Is there enough room for everyone to stand?  How will having 6 bridesmaids affect your budget (in my case, all of my BMs have +1s, so our headcount went up by 6 people).  Also, consider how this might affect who your groomie asks to stand up on his side.

Of course it is YOUR wedding and you can ask whoever you want!  I have about 150 people attending and have 6 bridesmaids. We have a large altar so everyone will ‘fit’ during the ceremony. I love all of my girls and am SO looking forward to having them by my side when I walk down the aisle! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

pick however many people you want! you dont wanna have people up there “just to have more people” but i think u should just pick people you know you wanst up there!! whether it be 1 or 20! lol its your day!

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You are okay to have six or seven. Don’t stress yourself out. Remember its your day and your putting on a show for people to come see you. I think its fine I am having 6 and I only have 120 guest.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Whatever you want is fine! We are only have 85 guests and I have 4 bridesmaids!!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am having around 100 guests, and 5 BMs. Sometimes I worry that it will seem awkward, but I couldn’t cut anyone out!! The only thing you have to consider is that you may have to do non-traditional seating. We decided to do a sweetheart table so that our party can sit with their dates, but we don’t have a head table with a fifth of the guests all sitting at it!

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