Post # 1
Okay bees, i’m in desperate need of some advice on how to deal with this situation. I’ll try to keep it simple:
We’ve decided as a couple to have 3 each in our bridal parties. I have my Maid/Matron of Honor for sure (my sis), and have 3 other very good GF’s to choose for the other 2. I’ve pretty much chosen them, however now i’m stressed about how to tell the third she isn’t in the bridal party. A plus is, she’s due to give birth 2.5 months before my wedding day. Ideally i’d like my girls with me for most of that day, which will be hard for her. Having a newborn is stressful enough, I dont want her to be burdened with being in our Bridal Party.
NOW, how do i tell her? I have a feeling she’s expecting to be part of the wedding. Do i sit down with her beforehand? I’m stressin about this and having MAJOR panic attacks and i just want it over [email protected]#$
Post # 3
If you feel so bad about not including her, why not include her?
If it’s a question of eneven sides, all three weddings I have been in have had uneven sides and it wasn’t a big deal at all. You should have all the people standing up with you that you want there.
Post # 4
You don’t have to tell her she is not a bridesmaid. Just ask her to be something else. Like a greeter or a reader. You can just say, “We would be honored for you to do a reading at our wedding, we really want you to be a part of our special day”
Post # 5
If you are really concerned with hurting her feelings I would just have uneven sides.
Post # 6
I absolutely agree with mcnetn3! Do you not want to have an uneven number? If you present the question like…I know you are due really close to my wedding date, so if you can’t I totally understand…..and maybe she will decline because she will be too busy with the newborn.
Post # 7
I based my bridesmaids on who I couldn’t say no to! just go ahead and include her! I agree that it’s fine not to have an even number.
Post # 8
Well I neglected to include that she isn’t really well-liked by my Fiance, our Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor. I agree, i would like to find another way to include her in our day…
Post # 9
You could have her do a reading during your ceremony. By asking her in advance to do this should give her the hint that she isn’t a bridesmaid.