Post # 1
Okay, so I’ll try to make this short and sweet. My matrons of honor hate each other. One is my sister and the other is my soon to be sister in law.
They don’t really know each other, but despise each other (just two totally different personalities). They are leaving each other out of things that are being planned and feelings are getting hurt and I don’t know how to deal with this…I think it’s crazy!! I’ve tried to talk rationally with both..but to no avail.
Post # 3
I’d go a bit bridezilla and sit them both down. They need to be able to get over it for your sake – the last thing you should be doing at the moment is stressing about your bridal party. These girls are close to you and they should be able to put aside their petty differences for your sake. It puts a lot of pressure on you to try and bring them all together and you don’t need to be dealing with them being immature and leaving each other out of things. It’s not fair on you. Planning a wedding is a big deal and even when it all goes smoothly its stressful. The job of the Matron of Honour/Bridesmaids is to do whatever they can to make the whole process EASIER not harder.
And if after you’ve done this they still can’t sort it out then I’d just opt out of their BS. If they can’t get along then they can’t come complaining to you about it. I hope it all works out for you and that they can get it together cos they care about you. Good luck!
Post # 4
@Miss Sparklespaniel: Thank you. I’ve tried to get one of my BM’s to coordinate things between them (because bach party details and such are being kept a secret from me, so I can’t fill the other girl in on anything). My one Bridesmaid or Best Man has been a SAINT! Thank the lord for her, but I don’t ever think there will be a time when they are together, because they live at least 3 hrs apart. I just don’t want their stupid antics ruining my day. We even had to change how the head table would sit (and alternate Groomsmen Bridesmaid or Best Man Groomsmen Bridesmaid or Best Man so that these two won’t be sitting next to each other. It’s getting out of hand and I just want to say forget it and not have a bridal party at all. They are being selfish and I hate it.