- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
So I am super excited that we just got engaged, and I’m not worried about anything with the planning besides our guest list and the bridal party. I’ll try to keep this as simple as possible but I tend to ramble (sorry) 🙂
1. Our venue allows us to have up to 200 people with a standing reception, 185 seated comfortable. The problem: we both come from very tight knit families, extended family, and then close family friends added into the mix. Granted with all these people that our families would like us to invite we wouldn’t have room to invite any of our friends. And to make it easier we talked about having an 18+ guest list due to the open bar and our venue (marina, docks, etc). We thought it’d be nice to not have people have to sensor themselves or worry about someone’s child falling into the water or anything. We have enough worries about some of our crazy friends & that problem already. lol And then we have middle school, elementary aged children who are so excited about the wedding, so that makes it harder too. I just need some advice on how to deal with this or if anyone had something similiar and how you dealt with it?
2. Bridal Party: My Fiance has a pretty big group of best friends so it’s hard for him to decide who to have involved in the wedding, and our brothers. And I’m having similiar problems, but I don’t want people to get offended or have guests think we are crazy having a total party number of 20 adults. I mean that gets a little expensive too. The real dilemma is the children in the bridal party, which brings us back to our close families. We know that we are going to have his only nephew as a ringbearer, and invite his 3 year old brother to be one as well but he is very shy and socially awkward so we dont want him to freak out or cause a scene. I have a young male and female cousin that I’m very close to that I would like involved, but don’t want my other cousins the same age or their parents to be upset that they’re kids aren’t involved. I thought maybe we could use my FI’s female cousin who is in 6th grade to be a flower girl or jr bridesmaid to walk down my cousin, and then have her brother in 4th grade walk down the 2 younger boys so we have kids from each side involved in the wedding and then those would be the only children under 18 invited. But is that too much.
Sorry I know that is so much info, I guess I just want to have a great day and make everyone happy. How have all you other bee’s made it work with crazy and big families? A friend of mine had no flowergirl/ring bearer but I don’t think I really want to do that.