(Closed) Bridal Role For a Friend — HELP!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4824 posts
Honey bee

The traditional

Ushers (male or female)

Program distributor

Guest book attendent

Reader in the ceremony


If you are doing a unity candle or sand ceremony or similar, she could walk down the aisle carrying the “tools” as part of the processional, but not as part of the actual party. She could wear a coordinating dress, but not the same one.

You could just ask her to get ready with you in the AM and the girls so she knows you value her friendship.

I would be hesitant to ask her to do a role that is “work” just in case she doesnt receive it well (IE like  Day-of coordinator or something similar) 


Post # 5
4824 posts
Honey bee

@KatieJean: If she had one, then she would understand you mean it as a compliment and an honorary role. So go for it!  I know that role is regional and some people think its not fun and others love the idea.

Post # 6
3267 posts
Sugar bee

I think it really depends on your friend.  I would never want to be in a b-list “honour” role.  I think they are all “oh, you were an afterthought, I’ll put you here” roles.  But some people will feel honoured to be asked.

There is another option you didn’t mention, which is unequal sides.  If you want this person to be a part of your day you could have her stand up with you and have 4 attendants.

Post # 7
1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You could have her do a reading. Being a guest is an honor also.

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