- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
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Well this thread is a lesson in projecting. Ironic that the one calling other posters ‘obese’ is accusing people of fat shaming.
I don’t know what the heck happened on this thread! But I just want to say – you found the dress you loved at a higher-end salon. You then ditched that salon and went to one with lower prices. But for some reason you didn’t think those lower prices would come with crappier service?? And it’s not like they did anything so out of line, they just could’ve been nicer about it.
10 pounds usually comes off easily when you start losing weight… But going from 180 to 155 is losing more than 10% of your body weight. Sure, you used to be 155, but you are older now, your body’s hormones have adjusted, and are you really planning to give up dairy and carbs forever? What about your fiancé and his take on food? will it derail you in a month or two when he craves pizza and orders takeout? What about 10 years from now, or 20, when your body starts to change more? Will you still be getting your self worth from your size you were as a teen/twenty something when you’re approaching menopause? How sad.
Let’s be honest, there is a reason were 180 pounds (and there isn’t anything wrong with that). There is a reason I weigh what i weigh, that JB weighs what she does, and they don’t always end up being the same reason. And also? Exercise does amazing things for many people, while for others it doesn’t do a thing. Everyone has a different body.
It’s good to have an “I got this” attitude, but taking it too far hurts you more than it helps. And I can guarantee you if you treat the people in your life with as much shame and contempt as you are treating JB, they probably won’t be in your life anymore.
Sample dresses are always stretched out from overwear plus wedding dresses DO NOT follow street sizes. Usually you have to go up a size or two.
I hope you don’t experience a too-tight dress when the size you ordered comes in.
Most (possibly all) companies will not take responsibility if the dress is too small and you signed off on the order. (Same with too large.)
This post lol , I see both sides I’m a 10 and weigh 137 lbs but I’m also 5’4 and blessed in the chest department lol 36 do so I could have fit smaller but ordered for my chest. So I can see people giving op hard time but honestly op just wanted to rant come on we all need a rant now and then. As some said weight is carried different my sister actually weighs the same as me but wears pants size 9 I’m a 7 and has a much smaller chest than me but we weigh the same so even siblings carry weight different. I wish you luck on weight loss op you can do it 🙂
the dress I got did not fit me in the back but since then I have lost 10 lbs. and plan to lose another 15 by July and my final fitting. Mine will be loose I’m sure but it has corset strings in the waist so should help.
Dress size charts differ one store I was a 16 and another a 12. So don’t go by that solely. I’m not probably a proper 10. my street size is 7-8 in pants lol
My bridal shop was FANTASTIC. The sample I tried on was a 12 (for reference I fluctuate between 148-155 but I mostly stay around 153) but when I post pics in my dress people assume I weigh about 130. My chest is on the larger side so when they measured me with clothes and bra on the measurements said I would have been about a 14, but since they knew the sample had fit me perfectly they went ahead and suggested I order the 12 if they thought I wasn’t going to go up anymore in weight. I ordered the 12 and the first time I tried it on I couldn’t zip the last like 1/4 inch which was fine because by the second time I tried it, it had stretched just enough for it to fit perfect again (plus there was an inner corset).
Typically bridal stores are more on the cautious side just to be safe. I agree the 14 probably would have been overkill but they may have still wanted you to size up one size just in case because it’s easier to take in than to have your dress be too small. I wouldnt be TOO hard on them though. Going off measurements says, “This absolutely will fit.” so they go off of those to be safe, not to be mean. If the smaller size fit and they saw that then I’m glad they changed their minds. Sometimes they need to see it to believe it
I also think it shows a lot of self hatred to be obsessed with your weight not being a number you like, or with your clothing size being bigger than the one in your head. Claiming you can’t order a bridal size 14 because you can squeeze into size 4 pants from Old Navy doesn’t really say anything about what you actually weigh or have as a shape, it just says you are waay too attached to a number in your head and not what actually looks good and fits your body!
I’m just here for the comments. Happy Monday everybody!
There’s no need to be so nasty, OP.
I am 5’0″ and weigh in at 150 lbs. I wear an 8/10. Using past trends, I usually wore a size 8 in most stores at 145 lbs, and a size 6 at 135 lbs. I am short and stocky. Everyone is built differently.
Omg…not reading all the comments! But some of you ladies are ridiculous! The size 8 sample size fit me snugly. I did NOT need a 12 or 14…ESPECIALLY since I plan on dropping 15 pounds!
Also, my dress is very expensive to me and has alot of beading…why in the hell would I want it drastically altered if it doesn’t need to be??
And as far as me being nasty to the 250 pound chick..SHE was the one doubting my size!!
Whatever!!..AND I also said OLD NAVY is not TRUE to size!!! Currently I am a size 10…yes at a whopping 170 pounds at 5 foot 8 inches!!!
My usual size IS an 8 when I am at my normal weight of 155!!!
And maybe losing 15 pounds is difficult for you ladies who have jobs where you sit on your asses all day and try every fad diet out there!!!
Me, I’ve tried every fad diet back in the day and when I hit my late 20’s it dawned on me..hmmm…no dairy..moderate carbs and don’t eat like a fat bastard!
Oh yeah..and my job is VERY physically demanding…so yeah, even at 41 years of age I do NOT have the “seceretary spread”…thanks in part to my non-traditional construction job!
Oh yeah, I measured my bust this morning in a NORMAL bra and OMFG…it was 37 inches!!! Guess what, my designer’s size 10 falls at 37.5 inch bust and 28.5 inch waist. Right now my waist is 29.5 inches.
So yeah, the size 10 is the RIGHT size and will most likely need to be altered once I hit 155 pounds.
And for the record, I didn’t rant at the guy measuring me…when I got in the dressing room I ranted to my attendant. And she said to go for the size 10
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