Post # 1
My sister is getting married in May and the shower is this weekend. I’m wondering – my mom and I are paying for the shower, and it is being "hosted" by four of her friends that share a group house. They have done a lot of the planning, shopping, and prep work for the shower, which I am very grateful for.
It seems that often the bride gives the hostesses a hostess gift, but I wonder in this situation is it more appropriate for the gift to come from my mom and myself, or is it still my sister’s job?
Post # 3
My opinion is that it’s still the bride’s job to get the hostess a gift. In this situation, I think she should be thanking you, your mom, and all 4 friends for working together to throw her a shower.
Completely understand that you are grateful to her friends for doing a lot of the work. Maybe you can also write all of them a note of gratitude with s small token of appreciation. Everyone likes to be acknowledged.
Sounds like your sister is one lucky bride to have such great friends & family that are enthusiastic about her shower and wedding. That’s how it’s supposed to be, but is not always the case.