(Closed) bridal shower

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it ok to not open gifts?

    TO Open

    NOT to open

  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    We opened the gifts there, as the women and girls were waiting to see my reaction to some funny and sentimental things.  I haven’t been to a shower where they didn’t, but it could work for your company.  You might want to see how you think they would feel to not see you open them.

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    The whole point of a shower is to receive gifts, so in my opinion that would be kind of weird not to open them.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    I really wish people didn’t open gifts at showers, to be honest. I  find it monumentally boring to watch someone open gifts, and awkward doing it at my own shower.  If my shower had been with my friends I might have tried to skip it – but it was graciously thrown and attended by my mom’s friends and I didn’t want to be rude!  Or better yet, I would have been perfectly ok having a giftless or gag gift shower – the party where gifts are the whole point just doesn’t sit well with me….

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think it would be fine if you skipped it, honestly. I always find it kind of boring and awkward.

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee

    Open them! People love to see you open presents that they get you 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Depends on who is giving the shower. If it is for/with youa nd your good friends I say open the gifts. I enjoyed the expression on my friends face after she opened package after package containing increasingly racy lingerie…LOL

    If it’s with people you wouldn’t be comfortable doing that with…open them later.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    It IS monumentally boring, but isn’t it also like half the point of the shower?

    I feel like most showers I’ve gone to, almost everyone has given an explanation of their gift, and gotten a hug afterward. Well, at the lingerie parties I’ve been to it was a little different, haha, but those are more fun with the opening.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I honestly would feel weird opening them, but I still think you should for the occasion.

    Post # 11
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    Bee Keeper

    We eliminated the actual ‘opening’ by asking guests to bring gifts unwrapped. Bags & bows were OK,but it turned out to be fun,moved along quickly and saved everyone time & money on buying tape & wrapping paper. Everything was stacked on tables and the piles of gifts were covered with organza tablecloths. My daughter & guests loved it!

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    Pictures when guests were arriving.

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee

    The whole point of a shower is to be given gifts and open them and your guests will expect you to do so. If you don’t want to open them, then cancel the shower.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would be more than OK with not opening gifts, but I can see where other people would want to watch you open what they brought for you. I’m about 98% sure that I’m going to tell my Maid/Matron of Honor that I do not want any kind of shower because I am so uncomfortable with the thought of sitting there and opening gifts while everyone stares at me. I don’t like to be the center of attention, ever, and the wedding itself is going to be hard enough on me LOL. No thanks!

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I guess it’s “standard” and “traditional” to open gifts and some people like to see it. But really, unless you’re a super close friend/relative, I kind of don’t care if you open my gift in front of me and people ooh and ahh. That sounds jerky, I know.

    I know you’re going to like the gift because I picked it from your registry. And you’re going to send me a thank you note anyway, so no biggie. I’ll be over here with the alcohol.

    Watching someone else open gifts is like watching someone else get a really good scalp massage or pedicure – no fun.

    But if it’s watching you open gifts vs playing some lame-o bridal shower game, I’ll watch you open gifts.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    i’m not sure i voted for the right thing w/ that poll (not open, to open, to not open, etc).  So..

    I definitely am against opening gifts at a shower.  Most likely the bride has registered, and knows whats in the boxes.  It’s not a surprise or anything, so why sit through 30 – 60 minutes of it?  As a guest, i usually hang in the back and drink wine, too much of it, because no one is chatting anymore, just sitting in a circle.  At our shower (I was pushing for an engagement party NO GIFTS, no dice) we talked to all the guests individually and got to spend time w/ them, and opened gifts privately after everyone had left.  My 2 cents!

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I think that a bridal shower, in this sense, might be getting confused with bachelorette party or lingerie party.  A bridal shower, in the traditional sense, isn’t really supposed to be a huge party.  That’s kind of separate.  I think people might be talking about different things with the same name. 

    I’ll be having a shower with my girls that has NOTHING to do with my original shower with the Polish porcelain dishes I got.  Hahahahaha.  And THEN there is the engagement party. 

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