Post # 1
so im very excited about my bridal shower, my fiances mother will be there but not mine. =( its sad shes bipolar and very anti social,she also didnt go to our engagment party shes said i havent done ne thing wrong she just doesnt wanna go. help
Post # 3
It doesn’t sound like there’s much you can do about her decision not to attend. Do you think she’d be willing to help with the planning part? Like decorating, making food, that sort of thing? Would she feel comfortable enough to come just for the end of the party maybe?
Post # 4
@aanh1986: I think it’s important to realize that she’s not lying to you. It’s really nothing that you’ve done for her to not attend. It’s her mental illness. My mom is bipolar as well and sometimes, you may get upset but you ultimately have to accept that its part of them and who they are and that they won’t always fulfill the maternal role that you want her to. It doesn’t mean she loves you any less though 🙂
Like @Juliepants suggested, ask her if maybe she could help you set up or get there right as the party is ending so you can still have your mom there for a little bit.
I hope I helped. Send me a PM if you ever want to talk. I know what a struggle it can be for a child to deal with their parent’s mental illness.