Post # 1
So yesterday was my first bridal shower ( I’m having another one with another side of my family in 2 weeks) and overall it was okay, I’m not a shower person anyways but something happened that kinda pissed me off a bit and I want to get an idea how you would feel if it happened to you.
Once everyone got there yesterday Future Mother-In-Law (the host) went around the room and said who everyone was, then when she got to Future Sister-In-Law (who I don’t get along with) she made a big fuss about how Future Sister-In-Law was getting married as well, to her other son etc….. Then we played a game where we had to say something about ourselves and when it got to Future Sister-In-Law she made a big fuss over being engaged as well again. Then later she made a third announcement about it and proceeded to tell everyone the details of her proposal. HELLO, it’s my shower, not yours!!! Is what kept going through my mind.
Now keep in mind Future Sister-In-Law and I do not get along, she hasn’t liked me since I first met her when I was introduced to FI’s family over 6 years ago. Future Sister-In-Law got engaged about 2 months after we got engaged and ended up stealing my thunder with her engagement but also because Future Brother-In-Law bought her the same ring as Fiance bought me!!! Don’t even get me started about how upset I was about that……
I was thinking about saying something to Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law just incase they try to pull something at the wedding. Which after what happened today wouldn’t surprise me.
Just wondering if this happened to you at your shower, how would you feel?
Post # 3
I was talking to someone at the shower and my Maid/Matron of Honor, they think I should let it go, but it still really bothers me. Would anyone else be bothered by this situation??
Post # 4
Yeah, I think that would have bothered me just a little. Did you talk to your Fiance about it? What did he think? I think that is something that has to be taken care of because you do have to deal with them in the future. Also, you want to make sure they do not do anything to ruin your special day.
Post # 5
That would have made me angry as well. Even if I DID get along with the Future Sister-In-Law, I would have been upset that they couldn’t just let it be my moment.
Unfortunately I don’t think there’s anything you can do or say really. Just make sure the DJ or bandleader doesn’t give them the mic so they can’t make any ‘pregnancy’ announcements at your wedding!
Post # 6
I hate this kind of crap! We had to deal with a similar situation, and it got completely out of hand. Now, none of us speak to each other. Did you know that you can’t help the way you feel? If we could control our feelings, life would be so much easier! So acknowledge your feelings, own them, explore what makes you feel that way, and figure out what you need to do to make things feel right to you. Communication is huge, and so is knowing that you stood up for yourself. If they don’t like what you come up with, then they probably aren’t thinking about what’s best for you. Your happiness comes first!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
that would definitely bother me. however, I don’t think there is anything that you can say to them right now…that being said, I would tell your fiance about what happened and your concern, and make sure that he makes it clear to his family that this wedding is about you guys – he needs to stand up to his family for you! (I didn’t mean to make that sound like I assumed he wasn’t already standing up for you, just that he should be the one to do this at this point – oy internet talking!)