Post # 1
If you were in town, would you go to a bridal shower either the Sunday before or the Sunday after Christmas? I am Maid/Matron of Honor for my sister and she lives in Hawaii. She will be home for Christmas and has hinted that she wants a bridal shower while she is here. I won’t see her again until her wedding in July. My two concerns are that it is so close to Christmas so people will be hesitant to buy yet another gift and that it is so far in advance of the wedding. On the flip side though, there are so many cute winter bridal themes that I could do and I could make it really cute, also there wouldn’t be another time to do it. We know that some people we would invite would be out of town, but there would be people here to attend as well, just not sure if I want to ask them too. I would hate it if only 2 or 3 people showed up!
Post # 2
There is a good chance I wouldn’t attend for the reasons you mention. Is your sister still close to people where you live if she is in Hawaii now? If you are inviting people she isn’t close to anymore that may also reduce the guests that attend.
Post # 3
NowMrsS: I would if it was for a family member or friend that I didn’t always have a chance to see! I would just send out the invites a bit earlier than normal and ask people to rsvp. That way they can budget time and money to attend. Good Luck!
Post # 4
Honestly I would not go to either, because I am usually so busy with other holiday events that my calendar does not have room for one more party or I’m just thankful to have a free day and some much needed quiet time.
Post # 5
If there was already a gathering planned I wouldn’t mind if a shower was part of the agenda, but if it was an extra event, I’d probably skip it. I think you are a nice sister, but by that time of the year the last thing I would want to do is attend another party with a gift
Post # 6
NowMrsS: Everyone I know is crazy busy the week before Christmas. The Sunday after might be easier. Plus, maybe some of her registry items will go on sale after Christmas!
Post # 7
To be honest I probably wouldn’t. It’s not even December yet and my whole month is already booked up. Not to mention I’m usually broke by Christmas and wouldn’t want to show up empty handed.
Post # 8
Absolutely, I would attend if I were close to the bride. Knowing she lives out of state and will be home for Christmas, I would definitely want to see her and attend her shower.
Post # 9
It would depend on my relationship with the bride. If we were super close or if I was in the bridal party then I would try my hardest to attend.
Post # 10
Scarlett11: MissHockey: The guest list would be a couple of friends of hers who are also out of town who would be home for Christmas as well and then friends of my mom’s. I’m sure her friends would come, but not sure about mom’s friends and that is what is concerning. They haven’t seen her in years and are not very close to her. They are all very nice women who would probably send a gift if they received an invitation, but would decline to come for the reasons you all mentioned above. I don’t know if I want to go through the stress of hosting another party around Christmas time if only 4-5 people would come.
Would love to hear more input if people would come!
Post # 11
NowMrsS: Have you asked your mom what she thinks? She probably knows her friends pretty well if they are invited to the wedding.
Post # 12
The only way I’d come was if I got the invitation by now and could be prepared. Spring it on me a few weeks before the busiest time of the year for me and I’d decline, now matter which weekend it was planned. Even at that, I’d really only go if it was for a family member.
Post # 13
I am usually out of town to visit my family during the holidays. I likely wouldn’t be able to make it. And, like you said, it’s a rough time to buy another gift. Your heart is in the right place, but I wouldn’t expect a great turn out.