Post # 1
Ok Bees, I need some advice!
My boss and her friend are throwing a combined bridal shower for myself and another lady at work who is getting married about a month after me. I am supposed to give them a list of who I would like to have there, as will the other bride. The problem is I invited very few people from my workplace (2 to be exact) to the wedding, due to my Fiance and I trying to somewhat limit the size. There are probably ~10 women I would like to invite, who are not invited to the wedding. Is it ok to do that? I know for family/friend showers, that is in extremely bad taste, but I didn’t now what is considered ok for a work shower?
I do NOT want it to seem like a request for gifts, but I want to include the women I’ve gotten to know the past couple years.
If it makes any difference – I’ve been here full-time for the past year, and was an intern for the two previous summers.
Thanks so much for any help!
Post # 3
I think for a bridal shower at work it’s ok to have people who are not invited to the wedding.
Post # 4
I agree with @Elarissa:. Even if you are “close” in terms of working relationships, they won’t just assume you are “close” in your personal lives enough for a wedding invite. Invite whoever you know and are friendly with.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2011 - Vandiver Inn
A work bridal shower and a personal bridal shower follow different rules. I agree with the other posters… at a work shower, the people who attend don’t expect wedding invitations. I’ve gone to many work showers and not the weddings. And I know all of my co-workers came to mine while only two or three are invited to the wedding.
The rules around work showers are just different. You should invite people who you are close with at work. Like your immediate team/area and anyone outside of that area who you keep up with.
Post # 6
At our workplace everyone is invited to showers. Those who know and work with the bride come, those who don’t- don’t.
Post # 7
At our office if there is a shower everyone is invited. I agree that the rules are different for work showers vs personal showers.
Post # 8
Thanks so much for the replies! That makes me feel so much better that people won’t be expecting to be invited to the wedding as well.
Post # 9
I agree with everyone else. I don’t like how I get invited at work showers to people who I’ve never even heard of. I would prefer for my own work shower that only people I know will be invited but I still wouldn’t feel obligated to invite them to the wedding at all. They come wish you well and get cake. LOL
Post # 10
don’t invite them. it sounds like gift-grabbing.
Post # 11
It seems like teachers do these things differently from most other professions. When someone is getting married or having a baby, we hold a shower for them (usually put on my the honoree’s grade-level team). Usually each grade-level/department chips in on a gift for the honoree. It is understood that we are not all invited to the wedding, but it’s a way to celebrate with the bride/groom/mom/dad.