Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Country Club
Hello Bees! I’m thinking of doing a bachelorette weekend on the same weekend as my bridal shower. Am I crazy? So, my fiancé’s sister is coming to town to throw me a bridal shower. It is the only wkend my bridesmaids will be together in the same state until the wedding rehearsal. Talking it over with my Maid/Matron of Honor -we were thinking Friday and Saturday night away and come back Sunday late morning (the shower will start around 1pm). I’m feeling like it is a lot for one weekend, but if there is going to be a bachelorette outting at all, it’s then or never. Thoughts and/or suggestions?
Post # 2
Novation: When my sister got married, a lot of her bridesmaids had to fly in from out of town. Since plane tickets were expensive and we didn’t want to ask anyone to consider flying across the country three times in three months, we decided to do her bachelorette the same weekend as her shower. The shower was Saturday afternoon; it ended around 3 and we all headed to a hotel to get ready and go out. By the end of the weekend we were totally exhausted, but I think it was worth it (and I think my sister agrees) to have all the girls there! I would say to go for it as long as everyone is onboard with it. Then just prepare for the exhaustion and try not to drink too much on Saturday night – I think trying to make it through the shower if you’re really hungover would be a little rough! 🙂
Post # 3
I’m doing my shower & bachelorette on the same day. Fi’s bachelor party will also be on the same day.. 3 days before the wedding.
Post # 4
I have been to plenty where both have been the same day. As Miss Milk Cow advised, people were flying in and it was just easier to have it all at once, then have them come to town another time.
I am planning on doing that for mine, probably sometime in August.
Post # 5
jenilynevette: Oh man! You have more energy than me! I was EXHAUSTED after my bridal shower. At least I know what to expect from the wedding just x8.
Post # 6
springbride23: Luckily, I’m taking the week of the wedding off [as well as 3 weeks after the wedding], so I’ll have plenty of resting time before then. But yeah, it’s gonna be exhausting!
Post # 7
Novation: I don’t think it’s crazy, especially since it sounds like your only real opportunity to have a bachelorette party with all of your BMs. Just make sure Friday night is the big party night and not Saturday. You don’t want to be hung over for your bridal shower. 1:00pm sounds late, but it is not, especially if you’re out until the wee hours the night before.
Post # 8
Novation: We did bachelor/ette parties on Friday and couples shower on Saturday since a lot of people had to come in town from far away.
Post # 9
Many people I know do them on the same weekend. Bridal shower in the AM/early afternoon, then party it up big later in the night! I love it when my friends do that, because I live so far away from them all I have to make a weekend out of every trip anyway, and there is no way I’d do 2 weekends for anyone.
Post # 10
I think it is actually a better plan than doing them seperate weekends. I did mine the same day and enjoyed it so much more than if I would have done them different days. My Maid/Matron of Honor was in town and my Future Sister-In-Law had the weekend off, so it just made sense to do it then rather then look for a second weekend when everyone was free.
Post # 11
We’re doing my lingerie bridal shower on a Saturday and then that night, we’re going line-dancing at my favorite country bar. Most can only travel for one weekend, so I think making them both in one weekend is a good idea 🙂
Post # 12
Novation: I’m doing the same thing. I live out of state from most family/guests, so I’ll be coming home (3.5hrs away) for the shower. This summer/fall is big for weddings and a bunch of my bridesmaids are in 2 other weddings near mine. I felt guilty asking them to commit to 2 weekends just for my wedding in addition to the actual day. Shower will be early afternoon, then bach party that night- I don’t know any of the details but my sister/moh mentioned I’ll have a little bit of time to recharge before the evening festivities. Yes, I think I will be totally exhausted, but it will be fun!! My biggest complaint is that I can’t down too much bubbly at the shower lol (I hate opening gifts in front of ppl- wanted to drown out some of the awkwardness!), but if that’s my biggest worry, I think it will all work out! 😉 I also feel like since it’s only one weekend, people will really put their all into it. I feel like when you drag this stuff out, it just becomes massive financial burden and ppl would rather do one or the other. Knowing there’s only one day apparently has more ppl coming and getting really into the whole day.