- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Hello everyone! I have an issue and I need help figuring this out. My older sister (she’s married) who is my bridesmaid has been very difficult during my entire wedding planning process. Because of that, in the very beginning I even asked her if she wanted to be a bridesmaid because the way she was acting it seemed like she didn’t. She assured me she still wanted the role. I have not asked her to do ANYTHING except buy her dress, which I had to remind her constantly about getting because the color I chose was going to be discontinued shortly after. She even tried to buy a different color dress because she doesn’t like the color I chose.
Now we’re in the middle of bridal shower planning and my Maid/Matron of Honor (my other sister) has informed me she said she’s not attending because she’s “busy that day.” She lives in NYC, I’m in NJ and it’s not hard to get here. She’s unemployed, but I’m not asking her to get a gift. I just want her to be there. How do I approach her about this without sounding like an unreasonable bride?
Please keep in mind that when she got married I wore the dress she chose without any complaints, I attended and helped set up her bridal shower even though I was a broke college student when she got married. Yet she still claims I was a bad bridesmaid.
Please help! I don’t know what to do.