(Closed) Bridal Shower but only money gifts

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m pretty sure showers are for gifts for the home. Otherwise… you’re just opening receipts for your honeymoon registry. :

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Normally the purpose of the shower is to give the couple gifts to help them start their new life together.

You’re being “showered” with gifts

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t see how you can have one shower let alone three without registering for physical gifts. Maybe have a theme shower? Would you be comfortable having a lingerie shower? Or a “stock the pantry” shower?

Other option is to drop the “shower” altogether, have a tea/luncheon and don’t expect any gifts.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would just come up with games etc., that will fill up the time. 

 @atalante:  In some circles it’s pretty common to not receive any gifts at all and just money. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Ms. Martian:  I’ve heard that about the wedding, but not at a bridal shower. But that’s just my frame of reference. I know there are cultural/regional variations.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@atalante:  I know, most people on here mention giving gifts at showers but honestly I’ve only been to 1 shower out of 20 or so where the bride received and opened gifts. It’s totally normal for my culture/circle but if it’s not for the OP it might be a bit odd.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@allycat7813:  You turn down the showers or you create a physical registry for them. You could also ask that they be teas or some other non gift giving affair. But definitely don’t have a shower (or 3!) if you’ve only registered for cash.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

@MidwestBride2012:  I agree…I wouldn’t have the showers if the only thing you registered for is monetary gifts. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

This is how showers are done in my culture. (I did register, but only because my Future Mother-In-Law (diff. culture) was against money showers). I just didn’t tell anyone I was registered unless they asked. Most people just assume now that no registry = money gifts.

My sister just flat out didn’t register. When people asked, she (or her MOH) kindly mentioned that she was not registered because they already live together, don’t need any new things, and are saving for a big home renovation.

Just play a bunch of games to pass the time.

Don’t listen to anyone telling you not to have a shower if you only want money, there is nothing wrong with this if that’s what you want. But be prepared that some people will still give you something tangible and there’s nothing you can do to stop it.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m confused.  Do the guests watch the bride open envelopes instead of gifts?

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@GroovyHippieChick:  In the showers I’ve been to and hosted, no gifts/envelopes are opened. There are a ton of games played, guests can win prizes, and the meal is usually a 3 course plated lunch.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

ah!  Thank you!

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’ve never received myself (have had three showers) nor seen a bride receive cash or check at a shower. The closest would be the occassional gift card, which still accompanied a physical gift.

If for some reason you insist on not registering for physical gifts–beware you WILL get physical gifts anyway for your wedding, but they will just be harder to return and not things you definitely like–then I would suggest theming the parties. You could get gifts for use on the honeymoon (if it’s tropical, you might get sandels, bathing suits, sun block, summer reads, etc.), lingerie, gourmet foods and wine and family recipes, etc.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If I was invited to a shower where the bride didn’t register I wouldn’t know what to do. I honestly would probably not go. Cash at a bridal shower is tacky.

I’m sorry, but you have to register to get shower gifts!

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