(Closed) Bridal shower — buying from the registry?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve never understood the whole shower concept – we don’t have them in the UK. You have to buy TWO gifts for the couple, or one gift and then give money? And if you give a gift from the registry at the shower, does the bride open it alone and the groom doesn’t even get to see it until after the party? Not trying to be snarky or anything, I’m just interested.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

We were actually asked to add a few more things to our registry after the shower so people could buy gifts off of that for the wedding. That was primarily done by co-workers of the groom though. Thought it was just fine. We are in the northeast as an FYI since I noticed people mentioned regional etiquette

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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adrienneruthie:  For my friend, I just bought her some small things from her registry and then I purchased spa-like things and put it all in a basket. It worked out b/c she had towels and what-not on her registry, so everything flowed together.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Where I’m from it’s common knowledge/practice to buy a gift from the registry for the shower, and then it’s just money in a card at the wedding. 

 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Never heard that before. Where I have lived (Dallas & Minneapolis) everything purchased for the shower came from the registry – most guests didn’t bring boxed gifts to our wedding. Instead they gave us cash/checks. 

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee

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LaPetiote:  To answer your question, yes. Usually bridal showers are for the bride only, playing some bridal themed games, eating some food and she opens gifts that he Fiance will see after the party. Coed bridal showers i think are becoming more commonplace (maybe this is just for baby showers) but i haven’t attended any to know what happens. I’m assuming more like a party with some gifts. 

Some brides are even lucky enough to have mulitple showers thrown for them, which is why some are themed with specific gifts, like lingerie. 

Not every bride gets a shower (i’m one of those) because someone has to throw it for you. I think it suppoed to be the Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs but could be anyone who wanted to really. Also, the guests invited to the shower are also supposed to be invited to the wedding. So many rules….

Do you not have bridal showers in the UK? Just curious

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee

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LaPetiote:  Oh, and yes a gift should be given for both the shower and the wedding. What the gift is depends on the region and social circle. I’ve usually seen physical gifts at the shower, and a combination of gifts and cash at the wedding. 

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)

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adrienneruthie:  I’ve always heard of buying from the registry and that’s what people did for mine!

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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mrsfry2015:  Thanks for this! i think maybe bridal showers are becoming a bit more common in the UK (most American stuff reaches us sooner or later, we had our first Black Friday last year :-() but I don’t know anyone who has had one. people have registries, or not, and as a guest you either buy off the registry or give cash at the wedding. 

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Yes at my shower everyone who bought gifts bought them from the registry. 

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