Bridal Shower Conundrum: Mini-Showers?

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Are people offering to host the mini showers for you in all of these locations? You shouldnt be planning or hosting them yourself. If different people in each location are offering to host them for you without overlapping guest lists that’s fine, but it doesn’t sound like that’s the case here?

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

I had two showers for similar reasons…a huge chunk of my family lives in one state, and another chunk lives in a totally different part of the country. But in both cases, there was someone who offered to host a shower for me. Have you gotten multiple offers from people to host showers for you? If so, then roll with it (but make sure there’s no guest list overlap)…if not, then it’s kind of a moot point no?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Don’t even think about bridal showers unless someone offers to host them. You will get wedding gifts so also don’t worry about getting stuff for your home.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

As long as people are willing and want to throw them for you, I think it’s okay. It is a lot, yes, but you do have genuine need for these items and plan to use the bridal shower as it was originally intended – to help set up a household.

If there’s only willing hosts at one or two of the locations, just have the one or two of the respected showers, and simply enjoy visiting the rest when you can. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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megm1099 :  if there are 3 people who want to throw you a shower, then it’s just fine! That said…has someone in each of these places OFFERED to throw you a shower? Because what is tacky is throwing one yourself (whether it’s just one or a hundred). Showers are parties that someone else offers to throw for you. So if you have three offers, great! If not, then you just don’t. And trust me, no one will be upset not to attend a shower. They’re not parties that most people look forward to. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

In that case, I think it’s totally fine! 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

As long as the guest lists dont overlap, I think its fine. Do think about how you’re going to ship back all of the items though. bring big suit cases! 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Totally fine then if the guest lists don’t overlap! ๐Ÿ™‚ Agree with PP, have a plan on how to get all the gifts back. People often have multiple showers for different groups of people (e.g. one thrown by coworkers, one thrown by church groups, or like your case in different cities) 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Totally normal to me! I am going to guess other than you there wont be people who are going to all three so that isn’t an issue! 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

Hopefully people will have the foresight to ship large gifts to your home if you put your home shipping address on your registry. That’s what I’m hoping will happen with my baby shower, which is being hosted in my parents’ town about 1000 miles away from where we live! Any super large items that you can’t physically take home with you, you can always return and then re-order to your home (we had to do this for a few things with my wedding shower).

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