- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I’m new to the bee, but have been using posts as a great source from before I got engaged. I seem to have come across an issue, though, that I’m not finding previous posts for so I figured I’d add my post!
So my bridal shower date has become an issue of family drama. My sister, who is my maid of honor, lives in Israel and has not been able to be very involved in wedding stuff. She’s coming home to visit next February and my mom has suggested I do my bridal shower then. It would be hosted by some family friends who have kindly offered to throw me one. I have not been very enthusiastic about this plan because as much as I’d love to have my sister there, I’m not thrilled about having my bridal shower more than 6 months before my wedding and in the winter. I asked my sister to come at a later date, but she said she didn’t want to. I feel like this party is now expected to be more about my sister and her availability then what I want for a bridal shower. My mom and sister are both mad at me, saying I should prioritize family more, but I’m literally being given the choice of one week that is fully picked around my sister’s desires and not mine at all!
Am I being crazy here? The best solution so far is my other bridesmaids have offered to throw me another shower with friends closer to my wedding at a timing that I like better. I still feel like the original bridal shower is now about my sister and not me. Anyone have any tips on how to create peace but also get what I want?