Post # 1
My wonderful maid of honor wants to throw me a bridal shower. The problem is that she and my bridesmaids and female friends and relatives who I would imagine coming to a shower are scattered all over the country. I definitely think it’s too much to ask my bridesmaids to fly to Boston twice in a matter of months.
So I thought perhaps the week of the wedding…my bridesmaids will be here as of Wednesday before and much of my family too. BUT, Maid/Matron of Honor wasn’t planning on getting here until the rehearsal dinner on Friday due to work. And if she does come early and we do Thursday, is that too much wedding stuff in a row? Also, one of my bridesmaids is pushing for a bachelorette party that week and so natural progression of that would be after a shower…but I’m scared if that happends Thursday I will be out of sorts for the rehearsal, etc.
Does anyone have any experience or ideas with doing bridal shower/bachelorette party activities in close proximity with the wedding?
Post # 3
Wow, it sounds like you may end up having a really busy week! In the last wedding I was in, the bride was thrown a shower on Thursday and then we went out afterward (a bit of an impromptu bachelorette party), we decorated the tent all day on Friday, along with the rehearsal in the morning and then the rehearsal dinner that evening, and then we decorated more on Saturday and then the wedding was that evening. It was definitely kind of hectic. We had actually done the bachelorette party two weeks prior–we all met up in a centrally located city because we were also scattered around. If you could have your bachelorette party before, maybe that would help you to feel more relaxed the week of. If you find yourself not going all-out (in whatever way that means for you) for your bachelorette party, you might feel like you missed out… but at the same time, as you mentioned, you don’t want to be out of whack the whole next day from sleep deprivation/hangover/whatever. If I were you, I would suggest to your BMs that you try to set up a date for a bachelorette party sometime before the week of and then do the bridal shower the week of.
Good luck and congratulations!
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception
Just wanted to say that you don’t HAVE to have all your bridesmaids in attendance, especially if it’s going to be too difficult. A friend and I were both bridesmaids for a friend’s wedding (I live in PA, friend lived in VA and bride lives in HI) and we didn’t not attend (or was even invited) to the brides bridal shower. They kept if for the local friends and family. But when we did finally fly to HI, we did (ALL the bridesmaids) throw the bride a bachlorette party.
Post # 5
My bridesmaids are scattered all over the country, and I live in So Cal even though the weddding is in Massaschusetts. My Mom decided to throw me a bridal shower in Boston, all the bms are invited but I told them it would be ridiculous to fly to Boston to attend, but my Mom just wanted to make them feel included.
Since all my BMs are not coming to Mass until Thursday or Friday-we decided to have the bachelorette parties (yes parties) before hand. You see, I am having 2 bachelorette parties-one on each coast. I have 2 BMS (and friends) on the Western half of the country (California and CO) and 3 BMs (and friends) on the East Coast (PA, MD, VA). So I am having a bachelorette party on each coast to include them (and of course if they cant attend thats ok too).
My job has me flying coast to coast all the time, so it’s easy for me to get around for each party, but I understand this isnt the case for others.