- 5 years ago
I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor for my best friend’s wedding this year. Besides me, she has one other bridesmaid. Right out of the gate, the bride’s mother offered to pay for everything regarding the bridal shower with the understanding that myself and the other bridesmaid would help plan it. I guess somewhere along the line, communication was lost and the bride started taking over the planning of her own shower. She started saying things like “I have to decide on a date for the shower before I can blah, blah” and “I have to pick out games and decorations so I can blah, blah”. I brought my concerns to her letting her know that I was really excited to plan this shower for her and I thought this was the bridesmaid’s responsibility. She told me that she didn’t really have any ideas yet and that she just wanted to “help”. However, a few weeks later she continued on as if she was planning it again. When I spoke to her mother about this she told me that “she always gets what she wants”. Everywhere I read it says that it’s bad etiquette for the bride to throw or plan her own shower. Yet this idea seems to be lost on her. Should I just let her go if this is something she wants to plan? I don’t want to come off as a bad Maid/Matron of Honor and not help with the planning but I also don’t want to be the Maid/Matron of Honor that steps on the bride’s toes. Help!