Bridal Shower Dilemma

posted 1 year ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

What about a bridal luncheon or tea? It is still a chance to celebrate without the expectation of gifts. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

autumngirl88 :  I would opt out and ask your Future Mother-In-Law if you can instead plan something with her and her daughters. Saying “yes, but I don’t want a typical shower, here is a limited list of other things I’m ok with instead” sounds ungrateful and controlling, when that’s actually the opposite of how you intend. I think it’s more gracious to say “no thank you, I don’t need a shower but would love to spend some special time with you guys. Would you be interested in any of these…. ?”

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I didn’t want a traditional bridal shower either, but my mom and sister INSISTED so I relented under the condition that it be a ‘books or bottles’ shower. You can never have too many books or bottles of wine IMO. Also that way the gifts could be much cheaper and many of the books had sentimental meaning. 

Another alternative is to just have a luncheon or BBQ and ask for no gifts on the invite. Also, just having one shower is more than fine, not everyone expects to be able to attend one. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

I’m not doing a bridal shower either. We already have enough stuff for two households. With the women he’s clsest too, we’re going for a spa day. We’re each paying our own, the priority was bonding time.

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