Post # 1
Does anyone have any suggestions for alterntatives to bridal showers? (for those of us who fall into the “already established and don’t need more stuff” category)
My future Mother-In-Law and SILs just offered to throw me a bridal shower, however half of my bridal party/guests are 1-3 hours south of where I live, and my future MIL/SILs live about 3 hours north of me. riginally, I didn’t want to have a bridal shower at all, and definitely not a bachelorette party, to avoid stress and I’m an introvert so I don’t like huge gatherings and big to-dos. It would be nice to get to know MIL/SILs a bit betterand let them throw maybe a casual get together/outing…
If I do opt for some sort of bridal celebration party, do I hold just one in a central location or two smaller ones? I’m thinking something casual like a craft outing, floral arrangement workshop, or going out to eat/having a picnic, and tell people not to bring gifts.
Or should I just politley opt out of the bridal shower thing altogether (since I originally didn’t want any traditional bridal parties or guests/family going through the stress and expense of hosting these events)?
Post # 2
What about a bridal luncheon or tea? It is still a chance to celebrate without the expectation of gifts.
Post # 3
autumngirl88 : I would opt out and ask your Future Mother-In-Law if you can instead plan something with her and her daughters. Saying “yes, but I don’t want a typical shower, here is a limited list of other things I’m ok with instead” sounds ungrateful and controlling, when that’s actually the opposite of how you intend. I think it’s more gracious to say “no thank you, I don’t need a shower but would love to spend some special time with you guys. Would you be interested in any of these…. ?”
Post # 4
I didn’t want a traditional bridal shower either, but my mom and sister INSISTED so I relented under the condition that it be a ‘books or bottles’ shower. You can never have too many books or bottles of wine IMO. Also that way the gifts could be much cheaper and many of the books had sentimental meaning.
Another alternative is to just have a luncheon or BBQ and ask for no gifts on the invite. Also, just having one shower is more than fine, not everyone expects to be able to attend one.
Post # 5
I’m not doing a bridal shower either. We already have enough stuff for two households. With the women he’s clsest too, we’re going for a spa day. We’re each paying our own, the priority was bonding time.
Post # 6
thanks, y’all for the ideas.
I like the idea of opting out of the traditional shower and suggesting a bonding time activity instead. like DaniGirl03 said, I feel like getting to know fiance’s family better would be more of a priority than “getting stuff.”