(Closed) bridal shower dilemma

posted 10 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Newbee

Etiquette states that the only people who are invited to multiple showers are the mothers and the attendants. They only have to provide 1 gift, but because of their importancxe to the wedding, they should be invited.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I had this issue, I split it by family – those who knew the person hosting the party and the friends that I felt would fit in more or know more people at it.

Also, with how busy my bridesmaids were I offered them the option to come to either shower, which would work better for them. It was nice because then I had some at both shower and one even came to both (but obviously only brought a gift to one of them) 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

My Future Mother-In-Law told me that she wanted to host my shower, so we invited all women guests who were invited to the wedding. However, my mom and I had so much fun at the shower, and were bummed that my family and bridesmaids couldn’t come (it was pretty far for them just for a shower), that my mom decided to throw me another one for my family. Major breach of etiquette on so many counts, but we made it very clear that gifts were not expected and we really just wanted to have a fun family brunch (small gifts came anyway).

Why don’t you ask your Man of Honor if he wants to come? I think my Maid of Honor thought my shower was boring too, but she still came…

Post # 6
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Newbee

hmm… why not just spread the news to everyone that you want to see at either of your showers..telling them when both of them are…and let them decide which one they can make it to.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

Can you make send out the invites for the 2nd one before the 1st occurs?  If people legitimately have a conflict, then maybe your mom could verbally ask them if they would be interested in attending another date.  I would worry about anything that makes them think they are expected at both, but if you get your message across, who cares about formal etiquette.

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