- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
My bridesmaids are planning a bridal shower for me, and my mother and future mother in law are splitting the cost. I really just wanted a small one with the closest women in my and my fiance’s life, but my future mother in law wants to invite all the women who will be invited to the wedding and there’s no changing her mind. Now out of the 100 we are inviting, I would say about 70 are on my fiance’s side and I don’t really know about half of them. So I already know it’s going to be an awkward day when most of my thank you’s are going to be, “thank you (person’s name I can’t pronounce and don’t know where to look cause I don’t know who you are.)” My fiance and I live with his mom in the same house, and are not planning on moving out anytime soon. So we do not need a lot of household items since we already have a housefull of stuff. There are a few things that would be nice to get though. I have played around with making a registry with Target a few months ago and just now when I was looking over it, a lot of the items have become unavailable already. When people go to look at our registry, I don’t want it to be an already short list with many of the items unavailable. I think that would just make us look bad. I am thinking of doing a monetary only shower, which my brother and his wife did and everything went smoothly. Even if we do have a registry, I have a feeling that we will mostly get monetary gifts (or gift cards) since our registry would be so small. Now, I have always thought that although opening gifts in front of everyone (especially the majority of people who will be there I won’t know since they are on fiance’s side) is awkward, but a mandatory part of showers. But would I have to open all the cards too? I obviously would not say the amount out loud. Future mother in law says I should cause it’s rude if I only acknowledge the ones who gave tangible gifts. My mother says I shouldn’t because it takes way too much time and with all of the people there, no one is going to be able to hear or want to listen to a bunch of cards being read. I just wanted to hear a few of other opinions on this – what we should do about registry and opening gifts with money.